Hi Teacat,
I have a decent amount of draining at first. My sis is a retired RN so and the visiting nurse helped me be quite diligent about keeping the incision site clean. I had a little warmth and swelling at the site still at my 4 wk visit. Just to be safe he gave me a antibiotic ( can't remember the name right now, how long does the effect of anesthesia last, lol ? ). As many of our leaders here tell us , there are layers of healing taking place. at 12 weeks I am still a little sore , and not as far as I hoped to be, but alot better than I was.
Caregivers should really be mindful of what they say or how they say it. It can be so troubling for patients and can add unnecessary stress to the healing process.