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I know PT is good for me and it will help me but i just find PT to be difficult and far to early to be doing at this stage of the game anyway thats my opinion.
 
Well Jo does say that hips have a way of working out for themselves, I agree :)

Have you read other post op threads Rich? Welshjane is a good one to read..

By reading other THR post surgical threads really does help :)
 
Now im having bouts of crying, my wife walked by me to pick up the mail and i looked at her asked "am i ever gonna get better" not to mention the weather here in the States lately hs been gorgeous, nice and sunny and in the high 80s and im stuck in the house,am i feeling sorry for myself i might be but it still does'nt change the fact that im depressed and hate the position im in right now.
 
Hey Rich,

Hang in there, it's not an overnight recovery and you will have some really slow, blue days. It's gets better. All you need to worry about right now is rest, ice and pain Meds.

Sending you lots of good thoughts and quick healing!

xxooxx
 
Absolutely agree with Sarah, you will get better, your pain will go away, you will get mobility back...

We are living proof of that hon!
 
Thank you for being so understanding Sarah, it stinks being like this i know when its time for me to be back on my feet i will be and not before, its just hsrd because i have to depend on people for EVERYTHING and even though they help me and say they dont mind people need a break,....ugghh i have so much going for me yet i focus on the negative ALL THE TIME i cant remember the last time i didnt ,its like im hard wired to b this way...
 
Yes, we all had to go through that, Rich. Everyone of us had to allow ourselves to be waited on and handed tissues when we cried because we didn't like feeling the way we felt. It's all part of the process and it will end but not yet! You have at least three weeks of very gradually getting better - VERY gradually. Just resign yourself to it.
 
A process i know it is i guess a part of the process im not liking today is having to depend on people, it doesnt feel good at all to know my poor wife has so much on her plate already without having to deal with me but i guess it goes back to that famous saying yet again ...IT IS WHAT IT IS...!!
 
Hey Rich-weather sounds wonderful-dont you have any nice outdoor chairs to sit on and get some sun on your face?! Sun gives Vit. D and it does wonders for our bodies, including moods!!

I am a very strong willed, independent and stubborn Irish woman! and yes I had to succomb to having help, I wont say I didnt go down without a fight but your true friends and family will LOVE to help you!!
 
Haldox - I actually have a nice patio set my wife bought two summers ago and you're right vit D is the one thing it gives off plus it has good healing agents, too am pretty stubborn, going down without a fight when it comes to what i want or believe in absolutely.If we get more nice weather this week i will make it a point to sit out on my deck and absorb some of those rays.
 
Listen Rich I'm going to tell you something that you really need to program in your head! Are you ready?
Two years ago my husband and I took a super road trip vacation to Florida. We were sooo happy and carefree as we visited my sisters, his brother and his wife and our daughter and her family. Hell happened when we left my sister's place and were staying at his brother's place for a day and night for a visit. The morning we left my brother-in-law's place Norm could not pee. We quickly found a urologist who could see him immediately, thanks to his brother and his wife, since we live in CT.. What happened was that his prostate grew so large that it closed off his urethra (spelling?). So by the time we were able to visit our daughter and her family Norm had a catheter and a bag strapped to his leg. And we had to cancel the rest of our vacation, which had a whole other week left, but we had to quickly drive home and find the proper doctors to help him.
What I'm saying is this, your wife is doing what she's doing BECAUSE she LOVES you, and if she needs to go through something like this she also expects you to be there for her. That's what LOVE is! So From now on PLEASE concentrate on getting better so you can be there for her!
Do we have a deal? Remember she needs you as much as you need her right now! Love & caring is a wonderful thing!:loveshower:
 
Rich....remember back to basic training? You had to depend on others for EVERYTHING you got. You could do nothing except what you were told. It went weeks. And you made it because you had a goal to reach. Just consider this hip recovery the Basic Training for the rest of your life with your new hip!! And....no drill sergeant yelling at you or midnight hikes with a pack on your back...and....the food is beter! Bonus!
 
I'll keep that in mind from now on, as in it makes sense love is a two way street, i love my wife my wife soooo much that i lose the words at times to descrie how much she means to me, there is nothing in this world, NOTHING i wouldnt do for her and yes i know its easy to say but i would lose my freedom for her if it made sense , anyway sometimes i lose sight of how good i have it, my life is awesome right now and i also am well aware of how i forget about the small things, if i said once i said it a thousand times ill get through this because of the people in my life and for that im pretty fortunate.
 
My days in"Boot" i would never want to go through again, but i like your scenario , however i am amazed at how things can turn out for the better now if i could stop projecting i'd be in pretty good shape.
 
Hi Rich

It IS difficult to ask for help !

Recovery requires patience and lots of it...

You will get better and you will get your mobility back.... You have to believe us when we say this...

We say it because we have gone through it...

Can you focus on something different - write a journal of the little milestones that you achieve each day...

Please trust that we really do understand and we really do know that you will improve and get better......... It just takes time !
 
At no time did i say i dont believe you, i believe every word you people say, ESPECIALLY YOU SANDY,JAMIE,JAYCEY,SARAH and JO,have always been kind to me and never stretched the truth, i truly know in my heart recovery is for me but its going to take time, thats just the way it is,im an easy inflential guy and easily discouraged and i just have to work on that, by the way i have already started my journal.
 
Good for you. I think a journal is a great idea. You will be amazed as the weeks go by how far you come. Recovery is a gradual process with steps forward and backward, so sometimes you just don't realize the progress until you think in terms of WEEKS and not DAYS.
 
Journaling can be very threpeutic and a release of pent up emotions that you may not even be aware of, i realized this one day when i was journaling about my days in the Navy and started crying and when i realized what i had written it was about my childhood and i was blown away because you think youre doing one thing when youre doing something else entirely'amazing how the mind works especially when you allow it to......put the pen to paper i have alway said.
 
This is precisely how im feeling and have been feeling for at least a week now, im afraid that when i go to bed and wake and my wifes not beside me not to mention home i totally PANIC , when i lay in bed at night all i do is cry when i sit in my chair in the living room when my wife is in bed all i do is cry, its the only thing i have left that makes me feel real, when shes not home i want her to be because i depend on her for my needs, this is killing me, every move i make i have to think "can i do this on my own" .she helps me in and out of bed and if shes not here to help me out of bed im stuck layingng crying yet again because it hurts to much to get out of bed on my own,last week i tried getting out of bed on my own and my leg fell off the bed i was in such agony i let out this SCREAM!!! like i have never before..i could go on and on...im helpless and i hate this...!! .
 
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