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@dougie0216 ... I found a couple of video animations on YouTube that I found the courage to watch, when I set my boyfriend down to watch it he just laughed at me, with my nerves the way they are that was not the reaction I was hoping for, I was looking for a little more compassion… Guess not… But I'm going for it anyway it's not his journey but mine


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@gaulsuerou I think some people think downplaying what your going through is the best approach.
My son told me just before my surgery that it was routine and no problem,I felt belittled. I'm sure he didn't mean it that way. I made him pick me up at the hospital and help me getting dressed.
 
@dougie0216 thanks, it is good to have my bone smart buddies to talk to, at least somebody knows exactly what I'm going through


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@gaulsuerou I'm wondering if deep down he really does understand and he may think that by brushing off your fears and anxiety he is helping you relax. Of course, it is having the exact opposite effect but maybe that is his way of coping. I guess time will tell. I'm glad you are sticking with your plan as you will feel SO MUCH better when it is all over and done with. It is pretty amazing really.
 
@Mojo333 I am no expert as you well know but I wanted to address your PT question. I had two goals - one to go up and down stairs normally again and the other to put my ankle up to my knee to put my socks on again. When I asked Josephine about getting range of motion back, she said it would come without PT. Then I went for my 6 wk check and asked me OS if I'd be able to go up and down stairs normally again and he said definitely yes. Actually I can already go down normally but still am not that good at going up. When I asked about getting my ankle to my knee, he said probably but that was not for certain. He also told me that I did NOT need the PT. He said the hip would just keep getting better and better without the PT. So, I'm thinking that just moving around and walking is strengthening up those muscles that didn't get used for so long and that the PT is more to keep our minds/heads happy :heehee:
 
@GrannyC thanks, I will just be so glad when this is all over, I'm so glad I have my BoneSmart Forum because frankly I think he's just sick of hearing me talk about it but I can't not talk about it because it's all that's on my mind, has been for a long time but anyway in a week & a half it'll all be over


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  • MyAussieGirl...Actually I think it's a breem... Southern people for their own lingo. It's a redbreast fish handsize... Beautiful and tasty. I'm a novice fisherman and really clutzy so I got a Spiderman fishing pole so I don't doing it around and hook everyone and get tangled and I caught 7 or 8 in just a little bit. We fried them up and grilled some sweet corn in the husks and oh my how tasty. Fish so good for us too!!!
 
Mojo thanks for the reply that was it lol yes Southern .... I bet fishing was fun
 
@gaulsuerou
I wonder if your boyfriend is anxious about your surgery himself, and trying to hide it? Keep posting here, we hippies got to stick together :friends:
 
@KiKi60 thanks, I don't know what his deal is he's been downplaying it since the beginning, I guess it's not his body so it's not his problem, he's not usually this mean


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@gaulsuerou Hi I am wondering if he is like my husband. Everything is going to be OK and easy in his mind because he wants it to be. Just a thought.
 
Isn't it fun trying to figure out what others are thinking? Hopefully he is nervous and laughing it off is how he deals with it.
That is not the approach I took with my wife when she had her shoulder replaced in April. I told her it was going to really suck for a week or two. It did, lol.
She is now back to commuting the 100-mile daily roundtrip to work. There is no way she could be where she is w/out PT.
My surgeon told me PT was optional. However, I have goals beyond just being able to climb stairs or walk normally so I opted for some PT. Six visits total, mainly just to verify I am doing things correctly as opposed to setting myself back.
After my LTHR, it took 19 or 20 months until I was fully healed, that is to say no pain upon standing and starting to walk. I am already standing and walking with no pain this time around so it's anyone's guess as to how long any individual will walk without limping or pain, we're
all different.
 
@gaulsuerou Don't know if just a man-way if dealing with concerns or what, but seriously not helpful.
My better half was not mean but seemed sort of nonchalant about my surgery beforehand...
Now that he sees me helping and my life is getting more normal, he has said that he it's really shocked at how well I'm doing. I was thinking , dang, did you NOT think it would go well?
I think he was actually very apprehensive about what our life would look like after our what other problems might come up for me...?
Regardless, not helpful. And believe me, men aaargh usually much bigger babies when THEY are down.
 
I am so happy that I found Bonesmart and have been able to use the support and advice to further my recovery. I got over wanting to be the FIRST to do everything first as I really was frightened to be so vulnerable and dependant the first weeks post-op and I don't want my hips to work NOW but from NOW ON.
My 79 year old father had a second TKR two weeks after my THR and I am so frustrated with him!!!!
He just won't give things time to heal. He wants to do all he used to do as he was still extremely active right now. And the darned driving thing. What is up with that? (@dougie0216 ) He has someone that can take him wherever he wants to go but we fight with him constantly... It was a right TKR. First off, there's the pain meds he has been on for weeks. Second, he takes it as a personal affront to his competence as a driver... Which he is a great driver. But there's alot of other idiots that drove out there. If you CAN slam your foot on the brake when some other idiot screws up... Why would you want to risk screwing your leg up.
Guess being able to drive is distinctly linked to independence in his mind.
IT IS TEMPORARY folks... Hopefully all temporary. Not forever!!!
Gone it some time..jeez.
My better half is taking him for a heart ablation today for afib at hospital so I'm on for the next few days. I will drive and be oh so careful... Hope all my friends are having a good day.
 
Hi Mojo - sounds like you are doing well in your revovery! Yes that driving thing is hard-wired in men I'm guessing. My car was sick same time as me - the engine had to be sent to Quebec when I was shipped to Newfoundland. The engine was rebuilt and is back at the garage. The mechanics have been dragging their heels getting it bavk in the car. Meanwhile I have not driven in about five months. And I don't care! I'll be driving on Monday when we start our trip. The fella will do the bulk of the driving though.

The thing here is you cannot drive until your restrictions are off or if you're in an accident your insurance won't pay up.

And yes impermanence is real or so the Buddhists say. Nova Scotians say "if you don’t like the weather wait a minute." As a Nova Scotian Buddhist I say yes to both! It is all temporary.
 
Too true and most of us recognise those issues, @Mojo333 - it is very difficult to be a patient, patient (as I am sure my wife would testify). My Uke has been a great outlet, is very calm and never answers back!
I didn't drive until I was 6 weeks post op and cleared by my surgeon. I am sure I could have driven before, but I was concerned about the insurance implications too tbh.

Overcast over here, just been elevating and icing, so it's time for lunch and a gentle rehearsal/strum this afternoon, followed by absolutely nothing this evening - exciting, or what?

Best wishes
Peter
 
@Mojo333 In have both had the numbness or the feeling my quad was kicked by a horse this time around.
The previous surgery? Yes, absolutely. There around The LTHR incision and around the side to the trochanter felt like it had been kicked by a horse, or hit with a #10 sledge hammer. I'd have to look back in my timeline, but it was months before that sensation went away. It was several more months before I could sleep on my left side.

Right after surgery I had about a square-foot of area on my upper leg that was numb/ pins-and-needles kind of feeling. As the feeling of getting kicked subsided, the sensation of touch came back. Now, I have a two square inch area at the bottom and to the left of the scar they has no skin sensation. I can feel pressure, but not touch or temp. I almost got all of it back. I have a friend who had his first hip done before anterior approach was available. He has no feeling in his lower leg. The muscles work, but he can cut his foot and not know it. He can tell if his shin gets banged. But not hot or cold.
I was told that during anterior approach, the stress put on your quad is the equivalent of 10,000 leg extensions. So that is why you feel like you were punched. I'm essence, you were.
All things considered, it is still better than it was.
I do have a small patch of feeling loss on the RTHR. It is the same relative location as the other leg. It is probably 4 in sq. It just never felt like it had the same level of trauma as the other side.

Vastus Lateralis?
 
Oh yeah, I am improving after the bathtub tried to trip me. I think the sudden change in direction upset some scar tissue. It didn't cause swelling, it did hurt. But! I did not go all the way to the floor, so technically it was not a fall. I did not hit the floor:yes!:
 
I did rest a little. I also drove to the store the long way. Today is the first day it didn't hurt to drive my car.
I met the nurse again today. The last time I saw her was a week after surgery. I remembered her being here, and her name because it was in my phone, but I did not remember her. I hate hydrocodone! My BP was 110/76. I'm getting back until shape!!
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