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Depression/post-op blues - open for all

Discussion in 'Hip Replacement Recovery Area' started by Josephine, Jan 17, 2016.

  1. Marvin L

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    So sorry, it is very hard emotionally. I am tired of being in pain, it can become depressing. Hang in there, you are almost done.
     
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    Unfortunately, this can be part of the THR recovery & when it hits it’s a double whammy! THR’s & blues are horrible... please know that this will pass & you will feel glad to have done those hips....

    Just hang on in there...lots of us have been in the same position and can testify to there being light on the horizon...

    Bonesmarties unite! We are all here for you & wishing you so well xxxx


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    No rhyme or reason, everything and everyone around me is good. Me, not so much. And although my hips are doing good, I'm not used to the feeling that I'm going to just cry out of the blue! I've never been this way in the past so this is really from surgery and recovery? Weird. :boohoo:
     
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    Aww @SE Florida
    So sorry you are suffering too.. you say no rhyme or reason but I think THR is pretty much the reason & the rhyme.
    It is such an assault to our body & minds.. both pre-op and post-op. Pain, anxiety, recovery )is it too slow, why does this hurt now, how come some people rock it... how come I’m not!!! All that!!

    Thinking of you sweetheart... knowing we all care... hoping your weekend is better for you... Chrissie xx


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  5. SE Florida

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    Thank you so much @Hoppy Nanny, I just hate to whine when there are so many not doing very well. I have to remember "this too will pass". Sigh! I hope you are doing well and I see that your 3 month anniversary was yesterday, so congratulations to you!!
     
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    I know that it seems when all the worst has past, that is when I feel I have "permission" to have my breakdowns.
    Whether it is a family crisis, work crisis, or with my hip replacements...I put the anxiousness on hold while there was "work" to do...it's when it got to idle stage, that my "feelings" actually had time to surface.
    Hugs @SE Florida ...it will indeed pass...get out some today!
     
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    @Mojo333, interesting viewpoint. I had to sit back and think, although it didn't take long to realize your thoughts are probably on the mark. The last 2 years my mom really went downhill, and unfortunately pretty needy. She decided to move to a nursing home in Oct. but hadn't done anything to prepare. I realized how alone I was when I had to get all the paperwork prepped for her to get on medicaid. And that left her condo to pack up alone, omg. What a mess and my hip was just getting worse the whole time. I don't think I've come to terms with any of that so am "packing" it away in one of my mental blocks that I've built in my brain, lol. Fast forward to February and surgery. Now it's June and the hubs and I want to move. Realizing how stressful it is just making offers on homes. Plus work. Ok, so now I have too many mental blocks going on at one time. Overload alert. :flabber: That's why I want to go fishing!!! :realing: Sorry for the long vent session. What is your hourly fee? :heehee:
     
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    @Mojo333 Water is what always can smooth things out for me. Fishing, canoeing, just listening to it lapping at shore or even, in an emergency, the Japanese bamboo water fountain dripping in my garden. It is magical. :) :-) (:
     
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    Gee! Life can be so complicated when really all we want is our minds to be at peace!


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    Please try not to feel like you don't have a right to reach out simply because others have it worse. Sadly, there will be others who have it worse than us for our entire lives. However, we all get off track occasionally and it not only affects us, but often those around us also. So...you're doing as you should and in attempting to work through whatever is causing you mental anguish, feelings of uncertainty or sadness. It sounds like you've been stuffing a lot and now it's time to begin letting go of all that is holding you back.

    While the prospect of re-locating sounds overwhelming and it can be, try to view it as simplyfing and shedding all you don't need. That's the one good thing about moving, we're forced to get rid of "stuff". Keep your eye on the prize of how fulfilling it will be once you're settled in your new home and living your best life with hubs and two new hips.
    Don't forget we're here for you!
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    I feel as if I could have written this myself. Verbatim. I am now going on 12 weeks post-op and although I have started to drive which helps a little, I still feel so much anxiety that I feel like hiding at home, I cancelled physical therapy, and other appointment I may have made. I was familiar with depression/anxiety - but I've been waking up just wanting to cry, shaking, fearful - just a whole bunch of symptoms I did not expect. I also stopped taking showers or didn't feel like it, didn't care to brush my teeth, and well everything that goes along with depression. But the anxiety was frightening to me. I felt like I've gone through some sort of PTSD and I'm not completely out of it. Just want to say that you're not alone and I understand every feeling you went through. I hope you are a lot better now.
     
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