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Sooty I hear you all too well, though at least my surgery was uncomplicated, little no pain, and though I'm still on crutches (at least til Thursday when I see my OS for my follow up), I at least can carry a cup of coffee. I too am by myself for the most part; biologically I have family 100 miles away, but he really isn't family in the sense I want and need family to be.
What helps me in this when I have "one of those days" or a couple of those days in a row, is my faith. Regardless of how you "practice" your spirituality, it helps to "give it over" to someone with greater power, when we feel out of control. I choose to place my faith in God, his love for me, and knowing that He works all things (even the crappy things) for my good. That you have a "feeling" there is a life lesson in all this says to me that there's some kind of voice, perhaps outside of you telling you that, watching out for you. For me, this is (I hope!) the ending of a long 2 year valley which included a major move (2000 miles), 3 moves after that, my mom's death not long after the major move, people who betrayed me financially and wreaked havoc on my credit, landlords who tried to rip me off, bedbugs, a car fire, and in the midst of all that chronic pain that lasted for 17 months, taking 14 months to properly diagnose. I got angry at God a lot in this, but once I finally got diagnosed, found my surgeon (I sense His hand was in that too) and was able to schedule surgery, I could see a light at the end of the tunnel. And He keeps taking me through this (key word through) this, because there is a glorious end, and a mountaintop waiting. I choose to believe that, even on the hard days. I get one chance to learn what I'm supposed to learn in this (cuz I'm not planning on another surgery!) and I keep surrendering so I do it right, knowing there is a blessing at the end.
I'm in no way advocating what you should or should not believe; that's all up to you. I just wanted to share what's (and Who has) helped me. He doesn't take away my "thorn", or take me out of the valley before it's time. He just stays with me until it's time to go up to the other mountaintop. In that I can place 110% trust.
Peace be with you.
(((hugs)))
What helps me in this when I have "one of those days" or a couple of those days in a row, is my faith. Regardless of how you "practice" your spirituality, it helps to "give it over" to someone with greater power, when we feel out of control. I choose to place my faith in God, his love for me, and knowing that He works all things (even the crappy things) for my good. That you have a "feeling" there is a life lesson in all this says to me that there's some kind of voice, perhaps outside of you telling you that, watching out for you. For me, this is (I hope!) the ending of a long 2 year valley which included a major move (2000 miles), 3 moves after that, my mom's death not long after the major move, people who betrayed me financially and wreaked havoc on my credit, landlords who tried to rip me off, bedbugs, a car fire, and in the midst of all that chronic pain that lasted for 17 months, taking 14 months to properly diagnose. I got angry at God a lot in this, but once I finally got diagnosed, found my surgeon (I sense His hand was in that too) and was able to schedule surgery, I could see a light at the end of the tunnel. And He keeps taking me through this (key word through) this, because there is a glorious end, and a mountaintop waiting. I choose to believe that, even on the hard days. I get one chance to learn what I'm supposed to learn in this (cuz I'm not planning on another surgery!) and I keep surrendering so I do it right, knowing there is a blessing at the end.
I'm in no way advocating what you should or should not believe; that's all up to you. I just wanted to share what's (and Who has) helped me. He doesn't take away my "thorn", or take me out of the valley before it's time. He just stays with me until it's time to go up to the other mountaintop. In that I can place 110% trust.
Peace be with you.
(((hugs)))
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He had thought there might be some RA in there due to inflammation; pathology says none. That's good news. Other hip looks good too. I started doing steps normally a bit this morning with the crutches. It will take time, but that strength will come back too eventually. May try a "arthritis aquacize" class at the rec center; they have a gym there.
as soon as you become more mobile and active, that is the time to balance the exercise with rest.. But you are doing so well, I am thrilled for you 
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). He falls into the first category. The first OS I saw had the personality of a moth, I could have been a plastic mannequin for all he cared. No way was I letting him slice me open! This one was actually a normal person (along with being an excellent surgeon)...that's why he got the job.
