Personally I would look at this appointment as a practice run for the next opinion. I have read over and over here on Bonesmart that second opinions should be with someone with no association with the surgeon who did the surgery.
I went for a second opinion in June. Obviously if we are seeking a second opinion, things are not going well and we are somewhat upset about it. So we carefully line up our questions and concerns and we expect the surgeon to listen and evaluate our symptoms to he can help us.
My second opinion surgeon took my notes away from me (nicely) and said just tell me. Well I could only remember one or two concerns, I was so surprised he did that. I don’t think fast, so it just totally threw me.
He rushed the appointment, I spent maybe 15 minutes with him. The whole thing happened so fast I didn’t know what hit me. This was after a 2.5 hour drive to get to his office.
So. Be prepared that this appointment might not go the way you want. I certainly didn’t expect mine to go like it did. All the way home (a 3 hour ride this time because traffic was horrendous) I felt like a ballon whose air had been let out.
As a side note about the drive, if traffic had been fine, it should have taken an hour and 40 minutes, not the 2.5 and 3 hours it took us)
Best wishes as you go through this next phase. I’ve been on Bonesmart for about a year (I was almost 6 months post op by the time I had the nerve to join, though I’d been reading since 1 month post op) and I always felt bad for those members who had gotten to the point of needing a second opinion. Now I’m one of them.
