How are you doing today? We share the same surgery date so I'm following this thread and your progress closely. I am doing well with my ROM, but I actually went into surgery with a knee in pretty good shape, if that makes any sense. I was still active and had good muscle tone - I just couldn't stand the pain anymore and could not wait.
Both my surgeon and I believe I have a very low tolerance to pain. I told him that's a fact we have to work with, and I'm proud of putting it right on the table like that, for he's tried very hard to address my pain issues.
We are still both in that 'I'll never do this again, ever!' stage. And, I think I will be until this knee feels like my own. I don't think there's anything unusual in that. I'm still emotional, not sleeping, and my pain is never '0" even at rest and on ice. I have the butt cheek, lower back, pain down the leg issues, too. :( No matter what my ROM is, I would not consider a manipulation this early, no matter what my surgeon recommended. I've no reason to not trust my surgeon, but after reading here, I just don't believe in that window of opportunity.
I just wanted to say I completely understand how you want to follow your surgeon's advice over the advice of 'strangers on the Internet'. I've been fighting that, too. But, BoneSmart isn't just some site of random, ignorant people giving out (mis)information. It is well monitored by people who have been there and done that, and people who have worked in orthopedics. It's a caring community with years of combined experiences of what works and what doesn't. This is not Ask.com or Yahoo Answers!
Still, it's been hard for me to pull back a bit on the PT, because I report to my doctor in person, and pay him the big bucks. I'm sure you feel the same conflict, but I'm learning more about listening to my body from here, than I do from my OS.
Hang in there. Be kind to yourself.