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I suspect it s fear of the unknown, I'm sure that once you meet him you will be more relaxed.
My tkr knee is still warmer than the other knee after 13 months
 
Nancy, you hit the nail on the head. Fear of the unknown is hard for me. I know I sound like a big "whiner. I hate that...just a few more days...this has been the hardest wait I have ever gone through. At least I don't hurt! thanks again.
 
Whine all you like, we all need it sometimes, and we all know how it feels.
Getting better pain relief will make a huge difference to you.
Try not to worry about what might never happen x
 
BEG,
Hang in there, no reason to be scared, they can only be better that the last OS. Just try and keep in mind they are going to try and help you get better. Please don't stop coming by and letting us know how you are doing. We really do care aobut you and you are never a bother to anyone of us.
 
shoulds don't work well in our lives. Down moods happen. I was happy to see you going for a walk. I keep a card in my wallet of five things I can do instead of being depressed and feeling sorry for myself. I really needed that card after the last surgery. BEG we endure what we must, as my gram would say, "Don't borrow trouble from tomorrow."
 
BEG, like Kelly's grandmother said, don't borrow trouble. You are going to do fine, your new doctor is going to be kind and caring and help you. You can come here and whine all you want, there are plenty of people here that understand what you are going through, because they have, or are, going through it too. We care! :)
 
BEG. How are you? I have been gone because I had to have a tooth pulled and then ran out of medicane. What a week. Now things are better and my doctor and I are on the same page. Thank Goodness. Your appointment is coming up and I understand its scary but do remember you have a great Cancer doctor and a Good Family Doctors so deep down I think you know there are good OS. The problem is you got the one that wasn't. But your luck is changing and this new one will be so much better than the one you had. Take a deep breath and start telling yourself its going to be great. Its going to take time but do let go of it. Try not to think about it. You are getting better and deep down you know you have the strength. How is your journal going? Mine helped me a lot with my doctor with the problem I was having. I feel you are in a depression and I can help you but it has to be thru the form.

WE ARE Here so please don't leave us. We can help you with this. Have you hug your :kittykiss: :kittykiss:today? Have they learned to share your stuff animal? If not you deserve a new stuffed animal. :heehee: Please let me know how you are doing. You are very important to me. Please take care. Tashia
 
Hi BEG,

Hang in there. The 26th is right around the corner!

Coming through what you have does require bravery and persistence. You have had some huge hurdles to climb, each on their own extremely difficult and taxing to your mind, body and soul. Unfortunately, there is no magic wand or instruction book to guide your through cancer, or loss of a spouse or major surgery. Each person must find their own way. Take the best ideas from all you read and hear and apply them in a way that makes sense for you.

Just think, next week you will be on a very different path and start to see light at the end of the tunnel. Until then, focus on what is happening right now. It's the only thing that is relevant.

Be well,

Dawn
 
Oh my goodness, your post is so heart-wrenching! I'm new to this board as well and had a RTKR on December 11, and am struggling with it. It's not for the faint of heart, that's for sure! Being alone must be so incredibly hard on you. I can't even imagine! I had six weeks of PT that was horrible and did nothing for me! I couldn't extend my leg at all and they told me I would have to "just live with it" or that it would "come in time". Do not settle for things like that. I know it's sometimes difficult, but insist you see another therapist! I did and think I've found a really good one. He got my leg straight the first time I was there (although it hasn't stayed straight but that does take time and repetition of straightening). But that was confirmation I was in the wrong place at first. Someone once said that the surgeon is, of course important, but that the physical therapist is almost more important because without good therapy, you won't have the best possible outcome. Hugs to you!!!
 
Hello everyone, sorry I have not been here in a few days. I think I was just trying to totally forget about my problems. Didn't work. Now if I just promise myself I don't read notes that may make me worry more.

Has anyone ever had fluid build up under the skin...on the knee? I have had it since the surgery but of course my old OS's assistant said it was nothing. Well, it is still there and a bit larger. Not real large but I just figured it was from the surgery and would eventually seem back into my system.

I don't see the new Doc's until Tuesday. Should I be worried? I remember my therapist trying to massage it towards my heart. It is still there and a bit larger. :shrug: I have some antibiotics they gave me for my dentist appointment and I have some left over. Maybe I should take a dose?

What a mess i am.....:sad: I just needed someone to run this by...? The area feels sore but not inflamed like a infection.

Another big question. I have been reading WAY too much online but...is it too late for me to have a MUA? It will be thirteen weeks next week and every where I read BEFORE 12 weeks. Someone even said you have a risk of FRACTURE later...I know, I should stop reading. :groan: I am even DREAMING about this darn knee!
 
Yes! Stop reading articles online.
Obviously I can't say definitively about YOUR knee but you have had very recent major surgery, of course it will be swollen.
I dont think I'd randomly take an old antibiotic though. 1 you might not need it and 2 if you do , it could be the wrong one .
I don't know much about MUA s but didn't think that there was a time within which it had to be done, certainly not 12 weeks
 
Hi BEG,

There have been members who have had MUA long after the TKR, so don't worry that some window of opportunity has closed. The fluid build up doesn't seem like something you need to worry about either; it can wait to be checked out by the new team on Tuesday.

Please take this next piece of advice in the way it is intended, with all care and concern; put yourself on a diet of what you read online about knees. I think it's easy to see yourself in someone else's issues, which is not helpful. I have found myself reading something and thinking wow, I feel that way too, only to realize later that it's not exactly what is happening with me. Your physiology, your knee, your feelings, and your recovery are as unique as your fingerprints; no two are alike. Keep what skigirl said in your head; don't borrow trouble.

Answers are a mere 72 hours away....that is the very good news!! My hope is your path from there will be filled with constructive, useful course of action to get you on the real road to recovery. And guess what, we will be here to cheer you on!

Be well,

Dawn
 
BEG, I agree with Nancy, don't take the antibiotic. You most likely don't need it... I know it's silly to tell people not to worry because we all do it! At this point there is nothing you can do about it and it does waste your precious energy. Tuesday will be here soon and I'm praying the new doctors will give you what you need to move toward the outcome we all hope for. We are definitely here to cheer you on whatever happens!
 
I also agree, do not take the antibiotic. I think it is unlikely that you have an infection---but, if you did have one and then took the antibiotic, you would mask the infection and a blood test would not pick it up.

I often fret too---and it has been a lot of wasted time in my life too. I think that I would try to take in a few movies before Tuesday---have you seen all the Oscar nominees? Or sit in a coffee shop and take in the locals. Or go viist your parents. Or . . . you get the drift, I am sure. Kelly
 
Oh my..I am late to this discussion Brown Eyed Girl..but my heart goes out to you ,so I wanted to just check in with my sincere condolences for your loss.. and the hope that these weeks have gotten less grueling as you go.

This surgery must have been so difficult to endure in a state of bereavement..it's a very emotional and rocky time, even if a person's life is going along smoothly, and so many issues are brought to light that a person thought they'd left behind years ago; issues around abandonment, or how we were cared for.. or neglected when we were helpless in the past If you roam around here on BoneSmart, you've already read lots of accounts of crying jags and the emotional roller coaster that goes with the territory.

I'm sort of an 'alternative lifestyle" gal and I consciously prepared for and used this time as a vision quest..a journey to the shadow side and back to the light. I've pretty much spent the whole 7 weeks in reflection, prayer and meditation. I journal too..I have a couple hundred pages since the operation, have you ever tried this? It's a very helpful way top work through difficulty..and of course the people on this forum are amazing, loving and supportive, any time day or night. I still can't believe my own good fortune at discovering such a helpful group!

To lose your beloved husband so recently and than go through this is a Herculean task..please know that you are very strong, very courageous, and above all, you are NOT alone. Hang around the social forum here as you improve, so you won't feel so isolated..and reach out on Facebook too if you use it.

No matter what you do for the next couple years, you will look normal on the outside, but feel like there is a thick pane of glass between you and what's going on around you..in the world but not of it . I remember this so well when my childhood friend, my dearest friend of 40 years killed herself and the 3 years that followed saw me going through the motions of living, but feeling very far removed from the rest of humanity.
You are in the very sacred but terrible land of the grieving. People will slowly return to their own lives, which is perfectly normal,but you will still be grieving long after they return to normal and that can be such a lonely time.

But, maybe doing all the icky stuff at once is a good thing in terms of loss and surgery..when you finally begin to feel like you are emerging from the dark, you will have new knees to take you the rest of the way on your journey.

I'm sending you lots of prayers for your return to life and for your recovery.:kittykiss:
 
Good morning, How are you doing? I agree if you start reading something and it really upsets you, stop, you are not ready to read it or you don't need it anyway. Hows the :kittykiss: :kittykiss: ? Have they been sharing the stuff animal? The weather will get better and when it does you will feel better because you can go outside more and feel like you have a life. Still take a easy because that knee needs to go down. My knee goes up and down, but not so much up now. When I get up it is stiff but just a couple of steps and it becomes limber. You are getting better. Are you still writing down when you do something you haven't done for a while? I guess I have my Mother shoes on today. If I made it threw my mess you can make it too. We are on the path together and we are going to make it. So we are going slower. We still are going to make it. Take care Tashia
 
:thankyou: Again, to everyone! I really DO take what you all say very seriously. From my heart, I mean that. One hour I feel strong and another I am in tears. I even tell my children not to fret over something that hasn't happened, but hard right now to take my own advice.
I AM going to try to keep busy. I am going to take my Mom and Step-dad out to dinner and maybe watch the Awards on TV. You are very right, the busier the better. :)
I thank god, every time I am on here, that I have someone out there! I do talk to the kids but they are soooo busy with their families and of course say they will come to help. I know how difficult that would be.
Anyway my friend said of course she would come out so that is covered. I just don't know if I will really need her? OK, again, I am going to stop....hugs to you all!!!!!! Thanks again....
 
Just knowing that there will be someone there should you need them could settle your mind.
You ARE getting there and we all know its hard even without your other problems.
Hopefully your new doc will put you in a better frame of mind to cope
Take care!
 
BEG, I'm glad you're feeling some what better, and I hope you have a good day out! Tuesday is almost here, so I hope you have all your questions written down so you can ask your new doctor! I wish you luck at your new doctor, and please let us know how you made out! We care! (((((HUGS)))))
 
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