@tiredwife I understand as I have lists to. I used to remember clear as day but now so many things to remember so lists are the way I remember. We have always bought calendars chose them by the pictures but now chose them not only for the pictures but for the size of the spaces by the dates. Need lots of room to write down appointments, write notes on my cross stitch patterns to as sometimes threading a needle with a color only to realize the color I thought I had in the needle is not what is actually in the needle so needing to pull that part out.
This is what happen to us the year my niece was getting married. So embarrassing. My Dad had just came home from the hospital and my mom to . The week after my husbands sister and our brother in law had their 50 wedding anniversary and their daughter our niece was having a party at their church for them . I went the same week for my first visit with my surgeon just meeting him for the second time and at the hospital that day for my first cortisone shot for my knee., We had just left our store it closed on the 2nd of June that year and it was very upsetting for us so many things just too much to remember.
This story is embarrasing as I got the date of the wedding mixed up. A friend of mine was going to her nephews wedding that summer to and we were talking about the date and wondering if the weddings would be close to each other same place different room. So after all that was happening got it into my mind that the wedding for my niece was on the 22nd of the month instead of the week before I was sure that was the day.
Invitation was sitting on the little table beside our couch kept looking at it but still messed up on the date. My husband had new pants that I bought him for Christmas and he saved a pair for the wedding so they would be nice still turned up the hem for his pants the weekend before this he bought a new pair of shoes had it all laid out hanging in the door way his tie and all set.
I needed a pair of comfortable but nice shoes as working nights wore work shoes and athletic shoes my dressy shoes were not something I felt safe in at this time worried about falling so I a pair bought on clearance that looked nice. I was given a few nice dresses for Christmas that Year so had a dress. Our wedding gifts all ready just needed to be wrapped and paper and bow all ready just did not think we needed to rush as in my head for some reason the date was the date wrong date.
So embarrassing to think about it now but it happened. The day of the wedding we decided to go to the show not knowing it was the day and coming home home that afternoon thinking we were tired and would go for a nap. On the way home almost stopped into the park not feeling very well so went home and almost stopped into my parents but decided to wait till the next day wanted to relax so much was happening at that time.
Just thinking I would have a hot bath before our nap the phone rang. It was my brother he was calling from a hall and then he hung up no message other then the hall. Thought he was at his motorcycle meeting so waited till he called back and then realizing the hall was the wedding hall oh no oh no still not believing it was today .
My husband and I raced around how fast we got dressed, wrapping the gift in between , trying to get on my new shoes and with my knee being so swollen just couldn't do it so put on my soft shoes they looked nice but not the ones I planned on still nice and comfortable. My husband and I took off in the car and on the road where the golf course was that the wedding was being held at was blocked off detoured for quite a ways.,
Not thinking clear still in shock, off we went got lost on the detour way off the track stopped at a large house on the highway , asked directions to get back to the hall. My husband told them man I was really upset so upset how could this have happened.....Then man called over and he told me they would just be happy to see us things happen he said don't worry.
He could tell how silly I felt reached out his hand and said if you both were my family I would just worried something might have happened to you. We found the hall in all of the construction, hoping we had all that we should have on on us hoping no clothing has been left behind left in such a hurry, trying to climb the stairs, and entering the hall greeted by so many.
So embarrased kept telling them I was so sorry how could I have made this mistake still thinking the date was the date I thought it was . My husband had been in the hospital just the month before this so everyone thought maybe something had happened and he was there again so they were relieved to see all was alright.
A beautiful wedding day for them and a memorable experience for us never happened before hoping never happens ever again but even so made it to the reception the wedding my niece told us had take place few minutes before on the golf course exchanged rings and vows and then just a short ceremony. All worked out fine but felt so bad.
Too many things at once and needing a break from the commotion we took time to see a movie happy we were home in time for my brothers call or would not have know we missed it. My life along the way has had a few bumps but all in all many good things have happened to. So many things that were hard to come to grips with had taken place during the months before this wedding upsetting to see the struggles my parents were dealing with in their lives to and before these struggles never seeing so many things for them change upsetting.
Our jobs were gone and the security that the paycheck we earned went with that so almost in sort of shock with this change to after so many years of working and then the feeling of missing the correct date for this wedding how could I have got the date turned around not forgetting the wedding just planning on going the date thought the invitation had told me.
The party for our family my husbands sister and our brother in law who was someone that I very much enjoyed seeing he was such a happy , man he had so many friends . Happy to have had the time with them as just over a month after this party my husbands sister died, she had been in a very tragic car accident a few years before which left her with injury to her brain such a lovely woman , going to the funeral that day seeing our brother in law trying to be strong knowing he was broken inside.
That year was so busy as two months later this wonderful man died to he had health issues cancer other things his wife needed him he stayed strong quietly knowing he was very sick and going back to the same funeral home as this time we lost him. Miss him so much he was the one that welcomed me into my husbands family always felt protective towards me felt like a big brother he was a special man.
Sometimes wondering if our bodies shut down sometimes in the way that our brain and senses feel an overload when things get too much to handle to many things to sort out all at once wondering if our brain goes on pause in a way to keep all from coming to fast slowing down our minds so that we keep from cracking up therefore causing us to forget things that it can't process all at once. Maybe mine did at that time or might have caused me a stroke or something else. How wonderful we all are and how amazing the way our bodies take care of us truly amazing. Holly
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