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In pain, confusion and uncertainty after 4 months

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Thanks, Jamie, -glad to hear that you all take your own breaks from the site. I think that everyone has to let go of their focus now and then. Some of us have to monitor our every thought so to keep from holding on to tightly to our busying selves.
I am trying to listen to my own truth-my own needs. I'm inclined to keep surgeon #3 in my pocket until I see what the pain people have to offer. But I'll keep listening to my self and what I think I need to do on a daily basis.
I learned some years ago that we can listen to ourselves and remain open to constructive input. I learned that I could build things on my own (I had niether experience or support to do so in the distant past) with the addilton of good information. This site is a good example, and a great place to practice just that.
So thanks for the continuing "coverage". It's great to know that we are not alone through our experience :thnk:.
Jim
 
Hi Janet,
Yeah, I'm having to calm my self with the unknown. Before all this happened I was involved with the notion of "embracing uncertainty" and "letting life flow" thorugh us. Of course there is a danger of lapsing into passiveness :skp:. The trick, for me at least, seems to be to keep listening to the needs and gestures of the inner self. Yesterday that had me ride the exercise bike, send a card of condolesnce to a friend who lost her father, eat lightly with what seemed like a full stomach and breathe into the pain in my rear while sitting (the pain will dissipate some then). And as I approach our national holiday, I have more opportunity to slow down and listen (I'm debatng about whether or nor I should eat 1 or 2 hotdogs this weekend-certainly, at least one beer is in order) to my inner self, which of course, at present, is currently no where near having to decide what to do about eating hot dogs. Pete :dogkiss:, on the other hand, never has any doubt about what he sincerely desires.
So have a fun 4th ,and thanks for your attention, support and well wishes. Jim :cch:
 
I forgot to mention that you have a "twin" who I had the pleasure of knowing while I worked at the hospital. The resemblence is rather uncanny, although he was a bit younger and didn't have a beard. I wish I had a photo to send to you. It's really unbelievable...just had to share. Enjoy the 4th and have a hot dog and beer for me, will you!
 
Well, Janet, I was told I was an only child, but the folks may have had a reason for doing that. Maybe by the time my younger brother came along they thought they had their hands full with me and sent him on to other caretakers (ones that could support a medical education). That would explain why my mother was a little chunky when I was about 8 years old and my father had no intrest in shopping for infant clothing.
-sure would change the story line.
Jim :thmb:
 
Jim..

Who was the referral in Houston to? We have a LOT of good hip docs here. Some get people from all over that have been having issues.
 
Kjt, the surgeon's name is Vasilios Mathews, and he's allegedly on Main St. in Houston.
Thanks for your attention and cosideration!
Jim
 
Good guy - excellent reputation. He's one of the ones that I talked to pre-surgery. Doc who referred me (he gave me 5 names) said that he talked to the prosthetic company reps about who was really good, and he was on their list.

Good communicator - willing to have whatever conversation you want to have. I liked him - as did a couple other people I know who talked to him. Didn't go w/ him mostly because he doesn't do direct anterior and my glutes were already shot.

He's also a revision specialist - one of the ones that gets people in from all over the place.

Texas Orthopedic (the hospital they work out of) also has an excellent reputation. Made the '50 top hospitals' list for USA Today.

The waiting room kinda feels like you're in some really huge assembly line, but the docs are good.

A friend had neck surgery down there (different doc, of course) and had a good experience. Ditto a couple people I know who had hips done there.
 
Great information, kjt!!! So nice of you to provide a personal perspective of this doctor! That's priceless.
 
Hi Jim - I back! Glad you've got another referral but I think you're right on the nice and easy does it routine. Things might yet settle of their own accord.
 
Josephine,
Welcome back! :flwr: -hope you had a good break.
I have been climbing on the exercise bike, about 20 minutes a day at this point, testing my leg and hip. I'm putting some weight (not 100%) on the leg (while bracing at the kitchen counter) and attending to my gait (heel to toe) in assisted walking with the crutches. And though I'm cautious about feeling or thinking anything, I think I'm feeling some better for it.
I'm 20 days away from the pain specialist, but as you say, maybe I can, with care, lend to some settling:
Here's some words I wrote about being unsettled:

Delusional Flight

I was sitting in my boxer shorts at my computer,
(I cant' remember if I had a shirt on)- crutches aside,
When my wife broke from her desk carrying the phone,
And bolted across the room and out the front door,
Blurting, "The niece is coming over",
At which disordered point my computer mind
Pulled up a file of such an aggravated, negated sort.
She quickly returned through the door and I pounced.
"Your niece-is she here? Is she in the driveway?"
"You've got to give me a warning when someone is coming over!"
The she calmly states,
"I said, the geese are coming over,"
And then I remembered the ten year old giirl
Who runs out and welcomes wild life into our city lives.
The transition to the natural view was too sudden,
And I had to haggle in burying time in order to shift.
"I don't care who's coming over, I want a warning!"
But it took only five minutes for us to sort this out-
Not bad for two old folks that flock on whatever they hear.
07-06-2010
Here's to pausing and exercising patience :cch: Jim
 
Great poem, Jim....I just LOVE your thoughts!!
 
Josephine, Jamie and all,
-just want to bring you all up to date on my situatiion. I'm still playing the waiting game. The pain specialist has canceled 2 appointments out of the office with "personal issues", and though I was scheduled late in August and can certainly relati with having personal issues, it seems pretty tenative now. I called my primary and he's trying to line me up with a specialist here in twon this week. So it may be better (less travel) in the end. I also have the name and potential referral for surgeon in Houston which one of you endorsed.
In the mean time, my wife, a long-time massage therapist here (I had anothr life doing body work as well), conferred with a rolfer we know here (I've had rolfing in the distant past) who would like to assess my condition. I guess it wont hurt (I think) to let them take a look at me.
I've been in pretty good spirits nost of the but sometimes sink into discouragement and irritation in reaction to the uncertainty.
Jim
 
:cnsl:Oh Jim! I have been thinking of you a lot. I miss the people that were around when I first joined and felt really hopeless. You were one of those that gave me encouragement. I was hoping things had gotten better for you. Please hang in there a bit longer. There's got to be something else for you to do. Hopefully this next treatment will help. Please keep us posted. Writing about it makes me feel better. I will keep you in my prayers :pray: . Best...
 
Bless you, Jim, it's so good to hear from you. I wish there was something I could say but I can't think of anything. God bless you with some kind of an answer very soon.
 
Jim, I have been wonderin how things were going with you. Dang....it sounds like they AREN'T going much of anywhere right now. I'm so sorry!!! What's up with that doctor??? I'm glad you are able to keep your spirits up. You are a strong guy! Don't give up!!!
 
Hi Jim,
I haven't been posting like I used to. Sorry to hear your still not doing so hot! But have an appt this month I believe. I know we all hope and pray for you and hippies that seem to have pain continuing after surgery. It must be so frustrating sometimes for you but you seem to have the strength to laugh at some of it which helps!

I have been job hunting but zippo down here! I totally forgot it was summer and kids out of school, but I have been told it doesn't matter, there are no jobs any time. So I printed up some cards and taking people to shop, dotors etc. It isn't much but anything helps to pay down some bills.
So how is your pooch? Mine ysed to hate the fourth of July, just wanted to cuddle up next to me like she thought she was a poodle instead of a shepherd!! Miss him still!

I would also suggest as Jo said do not sign out of here, keep it in your favorites and you will not have any problems remembering what pass etc. I do the same thing and stay logged in now.:doh:

I hope your doing better and have some sucess with your appt this month. Meanwhile stay safe and feel better!!
Sandy
 
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