I have wanted to leave this job for a long time. What they are doing now is icing on the cake. I have put details about my struggles with my husband on here because I have no one else to tell. At least on here everyone understands at least part of what I'm going through. Our relationship has always been rocky. My husband really stepped up initially but now that we are past 5 weeks he is over it. He reminds me that I ruined the summer; that I better not ruin another. That's why I took my picture down; I don't want anyone on the off chance to recognize me. This is hard and embarrassing. I don't think I'll be posting anymore.
What your husband is going through is called "caregiver fatigue". I have been taking care of my wife for what seems like an eternity. She doesn't need as much care today as she did a decade ago. But, she does need help every day. Most times she is just worn out and can't do anymore. She, like me, doesn't always ask when she needs help. This can her into trouble causing me more work than if she just would have asked for help to being with.
Caregiver fatigue is something that can happen sooner or later to anyone who is caring for you all of the time. It may be a few weeks, years or ever decades. It's all dependent on that person.
My wife doesn't work anymore due to her disabilities, although she probably could but her life would be work and little else as she would end up being in bed the rest of the time. We have talked about her going back to work part time, more for my sanity than hers. It's not uncommon for her to text or call me and demand my attention when I am working to help her with whatever mess she got herself into and/or whatever her priorities are at the time. It is VERY frustrating. But I have been doing this for well over a decade so I get over it a lot quicker than I used to. That doesn't mean I wouldn't welcome a break.
My wife and I don't always get along. We all have our struggles. BUT (big butt
) the one thing we both have is Faith. While I don't tap that as often as I should, I did tell her the day after she got her leg cut off that I didn't "Marry you for better or when you got your leg cut off". I have repeated that many times since.
Marriage is work and hard work at that.
My suggestion is that you vent here and be calm when dealing with your husband. Men don't react well to crying or yelling. Then perhaps you two can have a positive conversation, several of them and eventually it will work itself out.
That's off the cuff advice, obviously I don't know all of the details. But from a high level it's a place to start.
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