So now it's Friday and the nurse is here...she visits 3 days a week. During our casual conversations, she mentions my driveway and will it get plowed after a snowstorm. I have a New Holland tractor with a front end loader that I use and explain I plow it myself. Well she decides that I may not be well enough to do that if it snows an anytime soon. She also suggests that I consider hiring someone to plow so that she can get up my driveway. I abruptly replied "FAT CHANCE THAT"LL EVER HAPPEN" I'm not about to pay someone to make a mess out of my driveway and then plow all the stone into my lawn. It's not difficult to plow a crushed stoned driveway, you just need to know the tricks. Not sure if she accepted my answer, but too bad!! If she cant get up m driveway...park on the lower level and walk! Not trying to be rude to think that, but it is what it is...this is my place and my rules.
Once again, here's another individual that I have to deal with for the next ?? of weeks and no sense in making it difficult. But I will draw the line if need be.
Next the conversation changes to my eating habits...what am I eating, how often, etc bla bla bla. She then states my recent hospital records show my eating habits are not acceptable. >>>Here we go...
I don't want to go off on a tangent, so I'll do my best to be brief. As a young child I had a miserable time when it involved food. By miserable I mean I was forced to eat what I was served, like it or not. My father was a military officer and his strict military habits were also enforced on us kids at home. Many a times I couldn't stomach what was served for a meal. Even though my father insisted I had to eat it, my mother usually came to my aid. Well one particular night my father was over the top and insisted I had to eat what was on my plate. If I didn't, he would feed me himself. So I attempted to eat and swallow but it just wouldn't stay down. After getting yelled at repeatedly...keep in mind I'm only about 8-10 yo...I kept eating and swallowing until my stomach said enough!! And then in a mild explosion, I sprayed the entire table with undigested food. Sorry to be so graphic, but I wanted it to be clear why I was scarred for life at a young age when it came to food. From that time forward, if I didn't eat what was served, I went without...per my father. After I left home and went out on my own, I vowed to never again let someone force me to eat what I didn't want. I and I alone would decide what and when I ate, and not a soul on this planet would force me to do otherwise. To this day, 50 yrs later I still live by that vow. Fortunate for me my wife fully understands my past and supports me 100%.
So now fast forward to the present....my first tour in the hospital for the TKR was uneventful for the most part as far as food went IIRC. Ate a couple things...along with the few things my wife brought. However tour #2 for the emergency surgery wasn't so pleasant. I believe I previously mentioned it...after admission and upon arrival to my room pre op, the attending nurse brought me some pain meds and said I had to eat something first. Well, considering I had absolutely no appetite, I declined the food. Wrong answer...the nurse stated "no food, no pain pills" And I replied "fine...keep your stupid pills!! I'm not hungry and not about to force myself to eat" and she left. Well, one of the other nurses just outside the room overheard the exchange and moments later someone else brought me the pills. Over the next week it was a constant battle over me not eating enough to satisfy their requirements. Early on I did manage to eat a couple burgers and they were ok. But next time I had one it caused me to spit it out the instant I took the first bite...NASTY is an understatement!! in describing that moment. From that moment forward, I refused anymore hospital food.
At one point the dietician for the hospital paid me a visit. So now I had to explain what was behind my stubbornness. I was fully aware that the need to eat was to prevent an upset stomach, but more importantly the need for nutrition for my healing knee was a priority. Again a few of my attending nurses went to bat for me and clearly stated that I had proved over and over I didn't need food to counter the effects of the strong meds. A few of those nurses were real sweethearts when it came to defending me and looking out for my best interests. So then sometime during the last couple days in the hospital, the PA for my OS came into my room and mentioned that I wasn't eating...grrr...here we go again! What part of the english language don't these idiots understand!? Well...I cut him off by telling him to go see the dietician as she knew the whole story and that I had no intention of repeating again. After some brief discussion he then suggested to at least drink some Ensure. So I did, and honestly it wasn't bad. I then asked if there was such a concern over my eating, why wasn't this Ensure stuff brought to me sooner? Heck I would have drank 50 gallons of it by now. Naturally no answer...
>>>I did my best not to go off on a long winded tangent and that was the result of my efforts.<<<
So now we're back to last Friday with the visiting nurse. After she questioned my eating habits I told her if she saw my medical records from the hospital, there should also be record of my discussion with the dietician. You want specifics, go see her. I forcefully had to explain to her that no one on this planet would force me to go against my will when it came to food. Don't think she liked that response, but too bad!! Fortunately she dropped the subject as I surely didn;t need the stress she was giving me and I think she realized it too.
I fully understand the concerns but these people need to understand when they cross the line when it comes to invading ones privacy. The alst thing I want to do is prevent them from doing their job, but they need to respect that its a 2 way street and some things need to be left alone.
Sorry for getting so carried away...what I said needed to be said. Not even going bother to go back and proof read as I'm ready to fall back asleep. I'm doing my best to keep this thread updated, but have failed miserably from what I originally intended. As time allows, I'll clarify a few other things that I was brief about. Trust me when I say it...there's more!
I shall return...
