A dear friend had a child who was born severely disabled. So many things wrong that she became a fixture at the world renowned children's hospital. Her husband asked "why me?" while she asked "why not me, who else?. We're strong, capable, financially secure, emotionally solid - who else would God give this gift?". The couple didn't make it, divorced before the child was 2. The child just turned 21 and is beautiful (and still challenged). All that to say, not everyone can stay strong in the face of adversity. Those who endure the hardships head on get some great lessons in love along the way. You have proven strong, Marian, and as hard as this seems now it will likely be a blip on your radar when you're recovering from the revision in brilliant fashion. I hold a future space in the universe for you to walk with me through Philly when neither of us has to consider the pre-surgery trifecta ==> "how far do we have to walk, how long do we have to stand, is there a place to sit".... and so it is.