I'm sorry you went through this, but I think you are expecting too much, too soon from your body. I would not be lifting that knee up the way you are describing. It takes a long time to heal from this surgery. and you've had three surgeries. Many of us are not able to return to our original careers, especially if they were very physical. You sound in a big hurry to get back to work, and I'm afraid that is unrealistic, due to your circumstances.
I cannot return to professional dancing and that has been hard to swallow. I did a lot of crying and was grief stricken. But, it's the reality. As we get older, we have to make changes. I believe you can heal and make new plans, if you just give it some time.