Hi
@Storygirl
I'm happy to hear you had a good nights sleep after trying a different mattress.
Hopefully you'll do the same tonight.
I'm not sure if you've read it here but many times it's suggested we toss the old shoes we wore pre-op due to the wear pattern established pre surgery. Our gait was usually off in the form of limping, favoring etc. Personally, I wasn't about to toss ALL of my shoes but we normally favor a pair or two. It may be beneficial to buy a new pair that would best fit your lifestyle. An extra bonus would be if a change eased some of your back pain. Check out some of the suggestions below, if interested.
https://bonesmart.org/forum/threads/shoes-for-recovery.42383/
At five weeks post op you're still going to have pain. Many are still on pain meds then for just that reason.
The entire area was traumatized as things were cut, pulled aside, stretched. I wouldn't be concerned about the tenderness you described as feeling like a bruise without the visible appearance of a bruise. Try icing, it's certainly not too late for that. With some icing and rest I'm sure it will ease, or you'll soon be distracted by another pain elsewhere. That's how it was for me anyway.
I think you're doing really well 5 weeks after BTHR. I don't know how you bilaterals do it?!!

I know I'd never have the courage

I'm happy for you, the worst is behind you.....may it only get better!
I hope you have a wonderful weekend!