@Mojo333 and all, thanks for the kind and generous responses!
My reaction (
and writing a long response as it will hopefully this aids others in their decision process) and how I think about it is as follows:
First off, I don't think my recovery was 'normal': I've had problems since I was in my 20's (at 20 fell with four bodies on top of me playing a game and leg twisted behind my back, soft cast for 12 weeks). Joint capsule and hip flexor shredded... and waited a long time to get fixed. In retrospect, if you let a bad hip stay bad for too long, the surgery may be less effective to reestablish normal muscle movement. This has been a challenge for me for sure. The average person in their 60's who had a hip go south for normal reasons over say 3-5 years, not related to an injury or chronic condition earlier in life (perthes, fai), seem to recovery very well and fast with some PT but many do nothing and are fine (from my reading and personal experience with friends). Not the case with me: left side a problem for 20 years.
Second, the other hip is clearly holding me back and has through the recovery. But I pushed and pushed and got things to work, but it seems like I have to put soooo much effort in (like taping a broken egg back together) it seems a bit odd to put the work in relative to the result I have.
My first OS (who was great) didn't think I needed a second hip now, but commented 'the range is worse than the xray indicates'. I consulted a second OS a year ago (same surgical approach but uses CT Scan for cup placement) and said get it done September 2023: the range was so bad, you are ready now.
He also said your other hip is slightly raised due to OA which will continue to cause your pelvis to be out of whack until we fix it.
Also a comment on pelvic tilt (@Mojo333): this can happen at any time and what is causing me issues right now. My OS has seen people where muscle imbalances happen 10 years post Op. My knee injury from 10 weeks ago, and while healed, caused the pelvic tilt and irritation to piriformus.
I will likely change surgeons because in my view cup placement w/o CT is based on surgeons experience and snapping xrays intraop and hoping it goes right versus a detailed preoperative plan from CT that NAILS cup placement and pelvic alignment (sadly have researched extensively). As an aside, first surgeon was great and second OS loved his work (as do I).
Disclaimer: most hip replacements are done without CT and go just fine (including mine!). I have no complaints, but this technology has now been around 5-7 years old and feel will become new standard of care over time. My OS uses it for TKR and admits it will give him a better cut line than what he can do himself...
Also a comment on pelvic tilt (
@Mojo333): this can happen at any time and what is causing me issues right now. My OS has seen people where muscle imbalances happen 10 years post Op.
So what is the plan? Like before THR #1 not in debilitating pain, but 'in annoying pain' and super limited range and function going sideways and trending lower...Going back to OS #2 to check in. In many ways would rather get #2 done than eek along... but we will see...
Thanks and hope this helps anyone thinking about this stuff!