Had my one month followup with my OS today. We talked about return to work, and he suggested that I could possibly return after the first of the year (that would be about ten weeks), given that I work a school schedule, but that I should see how I am feeling should I need the full twelve weeks. He reiterated what a huge procedure this is and its impact on all aspects of life (this is why I love this guy - he is a realist and is in line with everything that folks here have shared). Sadly, my husband was less than thrilled at the idea of my being home for another six or so weeks; he works from home right now (freelance, so is always looking for a new client), and is feeling pressure "to tend to me" that affects his work. Asking the obvious question, "what were you expecting was going to happen?" wasn't too helpful! Isn't it interesting that the unrealistic goals we might put on ourselves might also extend to family members expecting more from us than we can give?
Anyway, I am confident that once I start to drive, which I intend to try this week, I will not need the level of attention that he is thinking about, but it's created some stress that neither of us need. It's additionally interesting because I am an extremely independent person who has difficulty asking for help when I need it, so under these circumstances, my need for help has been real.
Anyway, I'm sharing this mostly to vent. It will be fine in the long run, but I wanted to put this out there in case others are experiencing differing expectations from family members or others.
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