Hi
@healthgal46 I suffer from Depression and Anxiety (and I do give them capital letters because they are clinically diagnosed, as opposed to 'feeling a bit sad'

) I was very worried that it would flair up post op, but I can honestly say it didn't.... Now, that said, I did get "the blues" a couple of times! I had a particularly epic Whine and Cheese party one night, where you brought the cheese as I had more than enough "Whine" to go round.... I think a lot of people indulge in one Pity Party during recovery. It seems to be at about the same time in recovery too... when the rate of improvement has slowed, but you're still not back to your best - for me it was at about 4 weeks, again, this is a fairly common time frame
I got on to BoneSmart and had a good old whine.
@Hoppy Nanny replied to my post, with soothing words and sage advice as always with this
Exactly like everyone feels.....one day you feel great that you got through the op..thanking God & science & everyone that we've come this far to get a new hip......the next day hating everyone & everything about having this ' new hip' because you still feel ' disabled & can't do everything it promised.
It somehow helped, knowing it was part of the process. Of course on a practical level I "got busy"... filling my time with activity I could do took my mind away from what I couldn't do.. YET. Once I realized the importance of not having time to dwell on the negatives I filled my days as fully as I could and really didn't get 'bored' - but you've got to make it your mission, it's not something others can do for you.
You don't HAVE to fill your time with gym-based activity either, you can keep your light housework up to date (everything takes longer at that point, so dusting may take three times longer than usual, that fills an afternoon!) or reading, web surfing, baking, sewing, play computer games (all those things you just never have ENOUGH time for in your normal life

) I spent a fair bit of time on the phone too, catching up with girlfriends that I usually find it's months between calls - and of course there's WALKING.
The weather was with me so if I was feeling a bit lost I would just go for a walk on the park that is less than 100m from our house, and I swim everyday... the pool has been my saviour as I can stretch out in there without the tendinitis I've given myself

flaring up. Being out in the fresh air and moving around just seem to dispel the gloom... of course I have access to a pool in the backyard, I don't know if you can get to one easily or not (if the blues hit after you're allowed to drive, it's really easy to deal with them... simply changing scenery helps A LOT)
I think the main thing to do is not worry too much about it beforehand, like
@webbie73 said it may not be an issue for you, try to think positive instead of
i know i am going to be super blue for a bit until i get myself back to working out
because you may NOT be, when you anticipate it now it's against a background of NOT having just had surgery, and you think that this is precisely how you'll feel, but it's not. You're pretty stoked to have had it done at first... pleased with yourself for getting on with it, and then there is the Energy Drain (which is real, whether you want it or not!!) which just makes you rest/sleep without making you feel miserable about it. You have challenges ("how to's") to conquer as well, you know 'how do I get myself from here to there' sort of thing, so that takes up a lot of your thinking.... the meds will slow you down, even if you don't take a lot, these are all factors that you are not putting into your thinking now because you aren't experiencing them NOW, the time to deal with it is IF and WHEN it comes up - then you'll have all the variables in front of you.
Like I said try and be positive, a positive attitude is (I think) the most valuable asset you can take into recovery. As far as hubby not understanding your moods goes... they just don't "get it", you can't make them. My husband is the loveliest, most understanding, supportive, caring person I know. He has 'put up with me' in my darkest days, and soothed me so many times I have lost count, BUT as I said at one point on my thread
There have been times in this recovery when I would have liked to use a NOT foam covered bat - on my HEAD to put myself out of my misery... I'm sure there's been those times for my hubby too

his misery, though not HIS head

There has been plenty of tension around while all this THR stuff has been going on, but I know that these irritations are just that... irritations, and certainly not damaging to our long term relationship
even the BEST of them reach the point when they can't deal with it... and really we should allow them that
