46 year old female nervous about post op hip surgery

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healthgal,
Tomorrow marks one full week since my bilateral, anterior THR. I remembered some of your posts in this section, and wanted to come back now and share the few posts I've put up on "the other side"...we are similar in age and have done a few workouts over the years.
Here's my recovery thread:

https://bonesmart.org/forum/threads/surgery-complete-2-24-2015.28169/

My background:
I'm 45 and in the Coast Guard for the past 26 years (4 in Coast Guard Academy, 22 and counting on active duty). Until my hip issues developed this past fall, I was very active. I've always been around great people in the CG and fitness was a high priority at all my units, especially my last one where for the past three years, we did some mix of SPEED, crossfit, Tabata, etc five days a week. Laying in my rehab bed typing this, I am pretty sure that I was way off in thinking that I just had some workout soreness that I nededed to work through (sarcasm).
 
9 days till surgery!! ahhh! my bursitis is acting up today ugh! but probably because i am working my leg out (not heavy weights) but it is pain i can tolerate and take care of. i am getting anxious now but i know i am going to knock this one out of the ballpark and make a homerun. did it before and will do it again.
 
:sos:Post op blues is a reality - be prepared for it The big question i have. how do you deal with this, i know i am going to be super blue for a bit until i get myself back to working out, and yes in a few days or so i will be back at the gym. people are saying really! be realistic! well i am going to do it because i have the upper body and some core and if my pt says go for it with walking and biking than i am there. I am the ONLY ONE THAT KNOWS MY BODY AND HOW TO RECOGNIZE the pain level of what my body can handle. at least physically. so what i want to know is how does everyone deal with the post op blues? i have had three surgeries over the last 3 years (2 torn rotator cuffs and an hip arthroscopic procedure and i was back at the gym within a week and listened to my drs and pt and never felt better mentally and physically! tips anyone, especially when you have a husband who doesn't clearly understand the moods i go through. help!!
 
Although others do experience post op blues, I was lucky and did not. I don't know if it was do to the fact that I had other things occupying my mind at the time or not.
 
Hi @healthgal46 I suffer from Depression and Anxiety (and I do give them capital letters because they are clinically diagnosed, as opposed to 'feeling a bit sad' :snork:) I was very worried that it would flair up post op, but I can honestly say it didn't.... Now, that said, I did get "the blues" a couple of times! I had a particularly epic Whine and Cheese party one night, where you brought the cheese as I had more than enough "Whine" to go round.... I think a lot of people indulge in one Pity Party during recovery. It seems to be at about the same time in recovery too... when the rate of improvement has slowed, but you're still not back to your best - for me it was at about 4 weeks, again, this is a fairly common time frame

I got on to BoneSmart and had a good old whine. @Hoppy Nanny replied to my post, with soothing words and sage advice as always with this
Exactly like everyone feels.....one day you feel great that you got through the op..thanking God & science & everyone that we've come this far to get a new hip......the next day hating everyone & everything about having this ' new hip' because you still feel ' disabled & can't do everything it promised.
It somehow helped, knowing it was part of the process. Of course on a practical level I "got busy"... filling my time with activity I could do took my mind away from what I couldn't do.. YET. Once I realized the importance of not having time to dwell on the negatives I filled my days as fully as I could and really didn't get 'bored' - but you've got to make it your mission, it's not something others can do for you.

You don't HAVE to fill your time with gym-based activity either, you can keep your light housework up to date (everything takes longer at that point, so dusting may take three times longer than usual, that fills an afternoon!) or reading, web surfing, baking, sewing, play computer games (all those things you just never have ENOUGH time for in your normal life:heehee:) I spent a fair bit of time on the phone too, catching up with girlfriends that I usually find it's months between calls - and of course there's WALKING.

The weather was with me so if I was feeling a bit lost I would just go for a walk on the park that is less than 100m from our house, and I swim everyday... the pool has been my saviour as I can stretch out in there without the tendinitis I've given myself :snork: flaring up. Being out in the fresh air and moving around just seem to dispel the gloom... of course I have access to a pool in the backyard, I don't know if you can get to one easily or not (if the blues hit after you're allowed to drive, it's really easy to deal with them... simply changing scenery helps A LOT)

I think the main thing to do is not worry too much about it beforehand, like @webbie73 said it may not be an issue for you, try to think positive instead of
i know i am going to be super blue for a bit until i get myself back to working out
because you may NOT be, when you anticipate it now it's against a background of NOT having just had surgery, and you think that this is precisely how you'll feel, but it's not. You're pretty stoked to have had it done at first... pleased with yourself for getting on with it, and then there is the Energy Drain (which is real, whether you want it or not!!) which just makes you rest/sleep without making you feel miserable about it. You have challenges ("how to's") to conquer as well, you know 'how do I get myself from here to there' sort of thing, so that takes up a lot of your thinking.... the meds will slow you down, even if you don't take a lot, these are all factors that you are not putting into your thinking now because you aren't experiencing them NOW, the time to deal with it is IF and WHEN it comes up - then you'll have all the variables in front of you.

Like I said try and be positive, a positive attitude is (I think) the most valuable asset you can take into recovery. As far as hubby not understanding your moods goes... they just don't "get it", you can't make them. My husband is the loveliest, most understanding, supportive, caring person I know. He has 'put up with me' in my darkest days, and soothed me so many times I have lost count, BUT as I said at one point on my thread
There have been times in this recovery when I would have liked to use a NOT foam covered bat - on my HEAD to put myself out of my misery... I'm sure there's been those times for my hubby too :tantrum2: his misery, though not HIS head :snork: There has been plenty of tension around while all this THR stuff has been going on, but I know that these irritations are just that... irritations, and certainly not damaging to our long term relationship
even the BEST of them reach the point when they can't deal with it... and really we should allow them that :tada:
 
so i am going to fill in everyone who reads my threads, i have mentioned i have issues with an eating disorder and being laid up or tired more than normal(which i know will be expected) but knowing or fearing i am going to gain weight and lose what i am working on, if that happens. i plan on being up and about working out my upper body and some core and walking and biking on the recumbent bike according to how my pt thinks i am doing. why am i getting this surgery done because i cant stand being limited to not working out like i want to or like to and not jogging on a regular basis. 4 words that describe me:: STUBBORN, COMPETITIVE (AGAINEST MYSELF AND IF I DONT ACHIEVE WHAT I WANT TO DO. ETC... JOG OR LIFT I GET ANGRY AND MAD AT MYSELF) AND HATE MYSELF. DEDICATED, DETERMINED AND MOTIVATED AND DRIVEN. I PUSH MYSELF PROBABLY TOO FAR AT TIMES AND PAY FOR IT. I JOGGED on my treadmill with some walking and now i am in flare up but it felt so good, so yes i know that i have no right to complain because i did it to myself. so suck it up as i will do. so this is why i am so hard on myself and scared. i am going in with a positive attitude and coming out, i am going to go to gym and work the rest of my body, am i going to start jogging right away ? of course not! i am the only one who knows my body and knows when to stop. i cant sit around and read magazines or books all day! whether i have adhd or not . just not my personality. will i let my body sleep if it needs it Hell yeah!! but not all day . i appreciate it all so much for all the people on here to help me and give me such caring words. just a hard thing to deal with knowing i am young and losing what i love, well i am not losing it i am going to be going back stronger and being able to love life again
 
.yes and no i don't consider it compulsive i like to be active and if not doing walking or running one day i like to lift at the gym. it is a normal thing for most people. do i take a day or two off yes, but i don't feel it is compulsive. eating on the other hand i feel guilty when i don't work out at all so afraid to eat a lot . i eat but carbs and i don't get along lol! but i eat them but if i don't eat enough i end up eating the bad ones. lol!
 
I would be willing to bet that you're in great shape and if you're giving yourself rest days then that's wonderful. You sound like such a strong person to me (plus you' ve got the best sense of humor as I'm still chuckling over the Magic Mike aide lookalike!). I still think you are going to figure all of this out and come through on the other side as a happy and even healthier person. I'm totally rooting for you!!
 
thanks holly i am hoping i can still come on here and chat with you all. i would love to keep in touch with some peeps talking privately but if anyone wants to chat on regular basis after my post op just private message me. thanks again holly!
 
Please, please, please come back and let everyone know how you're doing. I personally am looking forward to reading your posts that say, "I really did rock that surgery just like I said I would. And, I'm rocking the rehab,too!" You go,girl!
 
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Please, please, please come back and let everyone know how you're doing. I personally am looking forward to reading your posts that say, "I really did rock that surgery just like I said I would. And, I'm rocking the rehab,too!" You go,girl!





:happydance::yay::dancy::cheers:
 
Oh @healthgal46 ... you're so NOT losing ANYTHING - other than a diseased hip that's stopping you from using the things" that you DO have; like an otherwise-healthy body and a good strong work ethic. You WILL be doing all those things that you love - it's going to take longer to be back 100% than you WANT it to... it does for EVERYONE. We all want it to be "fixed" from the get go, it isn't, but it REALLY won't be long REALLY :)

Of course you must do what you feel compelled to do - you can't fight your nature. I didn't "sit around reading books and magazines all day" either - there's no way I could do that, it's not in my nature, in fact I didn't read a magazine OR book during the whole recovery; for a start I couldn't concentrate and once I could I was back to working (I work from home) and that took all the energy I had available for "concentrating". I also didn't lift weights "all day" - I just suggested that there are a NUMBER of things you can do to fill your time, to occupy your headspace. You picked up on the "sitting around reading books and magazines all day" but it would seem you didn't take in the "light housework" and "walking" that were suggested too or the
The weather was with me so if I was feeling a bit lost I would just go for a walk on the park that is less than 100m from our house, and I swim everyday... the pool has been my saviour as I can stretch out in there without the tendinitis I've given myself :snork: flaring up. Being out in the fresh air and moving around just seem to dispel the gloom

You are NOT going to be totally disabled by this surgery, it's going to slow you down for a little while, you can't "hate yourself" or your body for wanting some time out to heal itself.
IF I DONT ACHIEVE WHAT I WANT TO DO. ETC... JOG OR LIFT I GET ANGRY AND MAD AT MYSELF) AND HATE MYSELF
Look at it as all the energy that normally goes into working out being required to rebuild your damaged body. There's no way I was suggesting that you "sit around reading books and magazines all day" - I just suggested that reading or web surfing (like time spent on BoneSmart :wink:) could fill a small part of a day.... get enough "little things" to fill the day and the day's full... there's absolutely no reason some of those "small things" not be exercise - little and often is better than flat out 'til you drop is all

You WILL rock this surgery, it all seems so huge beforehand but once it's done you really do just get on with the job of "dealing" with it and recovering
 
:happydance::biking::running::treadmill:hi craftdee i will be doing some reading hopefully or crossword puzzles the first couple of days trust me but as for cleaning oh hell i will be doing as much as i can before hubby takes over. like cleaning and emptying the liter box. as for getting out and about doing what i want to do i am going to see how i can handle it driving and take it from there. yes i know my body will be more tired than normal and i plan on listening to the body. but this gal doesn't slow down often lol i jogged on my treadmill and walked yesterday and felt the leg but i just monitored it, pushed it a bit but after i was stiff but i stretched and rolled it out and was fine today but for some odd reason my upper back is like ugh! maybe cause i am so weak at pushups did some of those too. lol thank you for all your comforting words. can we private message once i awhile after i recover.

i feel ok to talk to people out in the open but not to confide in everything. i only trust some people who i can really open up to. have a great day!! tons of errands and gym today. last week to kick some butt even though i will plan being at gym to the 4th day doing someonthing. i am making a list of exercises that i want to continue to do in a modified way so i can ask my pt when they come here if i can do them and what i cant do. i am a tough strong gal and i may have it hit me in the face when it is all done but i am not going to let it stop me completely. i know a lot of you are laughing and saying really! this girl is a nut! but guess what i am not! i am in control and i know what i can and cant do, and it may slow me down but its not going to stop me. kudos to me!!
 
Re post op blues-- For the first two weeks I followed a pattern that was very familiar to me from two major gyn surgeries in my 20s. Progress an feel good one day, feel less good the next day. That's my brain/body's way of handling it. But my real post op blues came in the form of drive-by temper tantrums. I had two or three over the first few months that struck out of the blue, and I had to say sorry to the poor victims! I was certainly never anything I'd call "blue", because there I was with a shiny new hip which got better and better all the time! As I mentioned somewhere else, raising my kids-- later in life as I did--really took it out of me, and having the perfect excuse to ignore the world for several weeks was a true gift!
You go, girl, such a positive attitude will take you far!!
PS we can have a stubborn-ness contest one day lol !


My phone sent this using BoneSmart Forum, clever phone!
 
Hi healthgirl46,
You sound lovely and strong, full of brilliant intentions which should carry you through but what ever happens be kind to yourself and patient too. I was swimming lengths right up to my surgery. I had lost weight and felt good but I think it is fair to say that post op, for the FIRST time in my life, I felt vulnerable and at times tearful and shock horror NOT in control. This threw me completely and I had to reorient myself completely and learn PATIENCE, not easy but surprisingly that phased passed. So good luck health girl we'll be with you however it pans out X
 
:sigh::unsure::bawl::cry:ahhh! 6 more days till the big day! i think i am getting really nervous, my body is showing signs as well as my mind. my eating disorder is slowly coming upon and out, i know its all in my control but i cant think clearly. i feel i need to be at the gym everyday except 2 out of 7 days which is my plan and have to walk as much as i can at least everyday and afraid to eat but i am but i am gaining weight like nuts! i want to be at my running weight before all this darn **** happened to my leg. so here are the words that describes me now. SAD, DEPRESSED, ANXIOUS, FRUSTRATED, HYPER AND VERY HARD ON MYSELF. I WISH I HAD SOMEONE TO HUG ME AND JUST LEAN ON A SHOULDER TO CRY. I Keep thinking you have had past surgeries on my left shoulder (rotator cuff) and right hip arthroscopic surgery, but now i am thinking and in the back of my mind i am like really this is more of a serious surgery and i feel like i am losing it all. i have positive goals in my mind. some may not see it at the way but i don't care anymore. thanks all for letting me vent
 
Oh Healthgal it ain't easy. It is such an emotional rollercoaster for some of us. I use self esteem visualisation from you tube when i feel at my worst. Have you got any equivalent emotional crutches that you use. To me the worst part of the whole process was the waiting. Lots of virtual hugs to you from England!!

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