- May 15, 2019
- United States
I am such a people pleaser
Sweet friend - I totally get this. Setting boundaries is a skill many of us are not trained in. Especially women!!! You do not have to please anyone - no one here, no one at PT, no one but YOU.
All this conflicting information is so confusing! We are all also completely trained to implicitly trust the "professionals" and do as we are told as they have all the experience and it's scary to try to make these choices on your own!
I personally chose to continue with PT but was able to have a conversation with my therapist about no pushing and she seemed amenable. I am paying her - she is working for ME. If she continues to push I will say - I appreciate your approach to this but mine is a bit different and I need to find someone who matches me. If you can't do that I totally understand and will find someone else. I appreciate all you have done. - and find someone else or quit or whatever. Clearly things are NOT working with what they are doing.
I literally have to practice these things as I freeze up also in situations. This is SO normal!! Do not beat yourself up. If you have to do it via text or email - do it that way!!!
I invite you to consider the possibity that....You are worth it!!
Now you can disregard everything I just said if it doesn't please you! You are in charge of you![/QUOTE]