@GibsonGirl1948 Hi. Hope you’re feeling a little more lifted today. Don’t know if this will help but…..
It’s not the same as having surgery but there are parallels to any recovery our bodies have to make, even non surgical recoveries. It’s easy for our brains to take over a little, creating all sorts of horrible scenarios, that things are getting worse and this will never end.
I was diagnosed with several autoimmune diseases in my 30s and I’m now 63, so I’ve had a very long time to experience and learn from that. I was a midwife with 3 young daughters and very active and was stopped in my tracks.
I would say I spent the first couple of years in total denial, fighting against my situation ( and actually making things worse by doing so) and imagining every new ache and pain was some terrible worsening of my conditions. After this point I realised I could either accept what was happening or could continue to allow my brain to keep reminding me how dreadful it all was and continue struggling. Once I was able to be more accepting of the situation, my conditions didn’t improve, but my perspective and attitude towards them did.
I found by accepting it was going to be a long journey, things somehow became less scary and more manageable. As some of the moderators have pointed out the surgery we’ve had has corrected a situation that’s our bodies have already adapted to. Our gait changes when the cartilage in our knees has worn down and our bodies usually compensate, by shifting the weight of our bodies either inwards or outwards. Then the surgery aligned everything back again, but our bodies have to have time to adapt back again too, so we’re bound to feel discomfort etc in places that seem wholly unrelated to our knees.
Our brains will be on hyper alert after the surgery and will continuously send out messages of pain, it will likely heighten pain too, while it works out that whatever the threat was,has now passed and it gets on with healing. I think over time I became less of a victim to my situation and more of a participant.
I’m not suggesting any of this is easy but I think in time if we can help ourselves to accept what’s happening we will feel a little more in control. I think a feeling of loss of control is behind a lot of our fears and why people often feel they wish they’d never had the surgery done.
The big difference with our situation and the great hope is,we’re all on the road to…
“Recovery“!!! We’re going to get better and we have some control over that with exercise, pain relief, information and mindful movement forward. We’re not standing still our bodies are moving and changing everyday, we just need to see each day as a day nearer to our goal “.
Sorry didn’t intend for that to be so long x