OMG you have had so much to suffer with your RA and TKR. I am glad you are going to counselling. It never hurts to have a face-to-face exchange with a sympathetic person. That will help take a little pressure off your husband. I've gone to counselling several times in my life and never regretted it. I hope in Wales it is free and part of your health care system. I am afraid to take a bath. It will come in time. Soaks are wonderful on cold days and it isn't cold here yet. (uups, off topic?). Hugs. Have a better day!