Alas, Mojo, I am a Type A person (I've even been known to time rows when I crochet - making what should be a relaxing pastime into a competitive event). That said, I go in with plans and hopes but also with plans B, C and D and adjust as needed. I don't compare with others and do let my body guide me but am not afraid to push a little and see what happens. I joke about ODIC but really didn't venture too far into it with either prior recovery. The worst last time was starting back to work too early out of necessity and an unfortunate injury where I tore a glute a few weeks into recovery (and slowed down as needed as a result).
The current surgeon's instructions are the best kind for me - anything as tolerated. When I told him about dancing after the last THR, he clarified that anything is ok as long as it doesn't push the pain level above a 3 (which generally fits how I've done things in the past).
Today is better - a little less sleep and a little more pain but didn't take anything for pain last night so head and tummy are better. Just counting the days! Should get my surgery time today.