Dear Deb,
What a bummer---and what an incompetent os---I hope his malpractice is paid up!!!
Can't those general surgeons you work for find a revision specialist for you? although you seem to have done a good job on your own. It will be a pain to drive to NYC, but, possibly, the surgeon there might recommend someone closer to you as well.
My surgery was a quad sparring MIS (minimally invasive surgery). I was very worried about the scar and appearing "damaged". Yesterday, I was at the pool (I do a daily "run" in the pool while wearing a bouancy belt) and talking to three women who had had tkrs. I mentioned that I had had one too----remember, we are in the dressing room after swimming!! and the three of them said that they had looked at my knee when I went in the water and did not see any scars---and they asked me which knee I had Had done!!! When I showed them the scar that I had been so worried about, they all said, where and moved closer. It is there--but, since it is three inches long, it does not stand out!!!
I had my tkr on May 13 and I just went on a nine mile hike in Glacier National Park on last Wed. Thursday, I rode 12 miles on my bike to have lunch with friends. I am biking to my OS appt on 8/31---the OS office is 8 miles from my house. I think you are taking control of your own health care which makes all the difference---I still have bouts of "was this all worth it" myself. But, if we want to be active, we have to push, push, push. I am 65, am a ski instructor in the winter--I have just stepped up my gym workouts to make sure I am strong enough in December.
good luck and keep us posted!! Kelly