Feeling vulnerable....
I live in New England and Winter has arrived. With that comes slippery stairs and sidewalks, not crutch or cane friendly. I still need to use one crutch for support and foresee this continuing for several more weeks. The weather is only going to get worse, not better. This week, specifically Wednesday and Thursday, were awful days.
Wednesday afternoon is when it started. When I came home from work, the steps up to the house were really slippery. I very carefully made my way into the house but hate that nervous feeling that I might fall. Hubby had forgotten to get ice/sand for the steps and was very apologetic. We had a storm come through Wednesday night and dumped a small amount of snow and sleet. Thursday morning, there was a very thin layer of ice on the steps to go down to the car, again, no ice/sand on the steps. Lost my cool and was pretty mad that it wasn't taken care of. Arrive at work and the maintenance people had not salted or sanded the parking lot or the sidewalks. I called the person who is in charge of these people and warned her that this is going to be an issue for me and for our clients who are sometimes elderly, that someone was going to fall. She said she would speak with them. Sure enough, Friday morning, I made it into the office fine, but 15 minutes later I had a client fall in the parking lot. I came unglued. Thankfully my client was okay but it left me feeling like I was being ignored and looked at as a whiner, when in reality this is a huge issue of liability and safety. In my first post, you might recall, it was a fall in this same parking lot on black ice that was the final straw in my decision to do the TKR. My knee has been a problem for many years but that fall pushed me over the edge. I did not pursue any claim against the maintenance people or the building owner as I felt I could have been a little more careful and took responsibility for myself. Now, I am super sensitive and feel like everywhere I go, there is a risk of falling. I am scared of making an appointment to see a client at their home as I don't know how accessible their home is. My hubby is going to take care of our icy steps issue at home, love him, but I can't control this issue everywhere. I did buy the YakTrax for my shoes to help with grip and they are good. THey do not help on ice, they actually make it even more slippery. I am thinking about buying some sand and salt mixture and carrying it in my car for the rest of the winter but that seems extreme.
THe other part is that I have some business travel coming up next week and in January. THese are trips that I must take. I dread the idea of driving into Boston and having to navigate through the city streets to get to our office. I also dread the walk to dinner after work with my colleagues, as they routinely walk blocks and blocks with ease. That won't be possible for me. I do have a handicap parking sticker which is great, it helps. It doesn't solve everything.
I hate being the one that has to be accommodated and special arrangements made for. I hate having to depend on other people for my safety. I am scared to death to fall and injure myself. I hate asking for help and feel dependent, its very challenging for me.
My knee is still stiff and painful, the extension is not coming as I had hoped after the MUA and I am at the end of my rope. I have to work, I have to move about, and can't sit at home in my bubble. I see my OS or his PA on 12/21 for follow up after the MUA. No idea what will be suggested at that point. I have complete confidence in my OS, he and his team are terrific, its my physiology that is causing this.
So, here I am on a Saturday morning, dreading having to go out to shop, which I love to do, dreading having to go to Boston, which I love to do, feeling lost. I feel guilty even writing about this. Sorry to dump this rant on the site. It's just so incredibly frustrating to be in this position. I know many of you have had similar experiences, so I know I am in no way unique.
So, I will do what I always do, pull myself together and head into it. Thanks for the release valve.
Dawn