Sally,
Sorry to hear about the current situation. I am really hoping this all finds a resolution soon.
I had some similar financial frustrations. When I developed issues my reaction was "why should THIS be costing ME ANYTHING?" I too thought, I have this pain, I get to have more surgeries AND i get to pay for it?!??! And then I realized that I did not need to add to my stress which was already sizeable. I needed to do the medical things that needed to be done and worry about the financials later...or never.
If you can let that part go, at least for now, I think you will be doing yourself a favor, and I realize that may be easier said than done. You, your physical and mental well being are more important than the money...altho we all need the money to live.
I wish I had a magic bullet to make this situation resolve itself...
Thanks for keeping us all posted,
Z