I forgot one thing that some others may share with me: Fear of stairs after a total hip.
I can say the fear does go away. Since we live in a two story house, I must go upstairs to get to my bedroom. Our bathroom toilet doesn't work downstairs so I asked for a bedside commode and I used it for about 4-5 weeks. May be I used it for 3 weeks. Once I got to week 3 or 4 I was going up stair slowly and up 13 steps. Since we have a landing it allowed me to stand there and rest (only a space of 2 feet by 2 feet). My mom took my walker up for me. Once I got to the landing I had to wrap my mind around : how to get up these last two steps since I had no railing on either side in the upstairs hallway. I only had to do two steps but I had major fear of those last two. (Last two going up and first two going down before the landing area).
I remember asking my mom "put my walker right here and hold on it to so it doesn't move when I put my left foot up" (left up first then right foot up). I was so freaking afraid of my walker moving once I got to the last step and I held that fear until week 8 post op . . .then. .. I went to a cane.
Once I got to a cane the fear went down, but those last two stairs were hard since I had a railing on the right side (going up) or on left side (going down) before that landing. Good thing our railing was on the "right" side of my hip.
I remember with that cane, I'd walk from my bedroom down the hall to bathroom (all of 4 steps) and the bathroom door was right there - right next to that step that does down. I had fears of getting to my bathroom since I feared I'd fall down the stairs - even though I'd have to take an extra step to go to the stairs. The bathroom was to the right, stairs were straight ahead. Coming out of the bathroom was worse since once I got out, left was my room (only 4 steps away) and one step (or two) to the right and I'd go downstairs.
When I noticed the fear go away of those first two/last two steps near the landing - I was around 12-14 weeks post op. Even though I was going up and down those steps since week 3 post op, and my mom kept saying "You can do it sandra, you can do it. You did these step 200 times before with your cane and walker and you did it 10,000 times before your hip replacement" and I knew that -- but my fear crippled me until week 12-14.
I stated doing the opposite of "good leg up, bad leg down" and I did "bad leg (right) up and good leg (left) down" around week 13 post op. What I noticed was as much as it hurt to just lift my right leg up on that stair, it hurt MORE to go down on my "good" (left) leg. It used some other muscle group.
Now at almost 7 months post op, my fear is all gone of those stairs. I was able to almost run up/down stairs around 5 months post op. It still feels "Funny" going upstairs with my right leg leading, but the "funny" feeling is decreasing. I know it is the scar tissue. I was also told the "capsule" is healed. not sure exactly what that means, but I was told that it healed at my 6 month post op.
The funny feeling in my leg and butt is still there when I walk, but it is not like it was when I was 3 months PO. I'm looking forward to 1 year - Aug 2014. . .hoping I'll have less "funny" feeling. I can still have that "Yep, I know that mental is in my hip" feeling.