Hi Ginger1210,
Chin up - sounds like you are doing pretty well! The mental toll is something I was unprepared for. I was also unprepared to be so drained at the end of the day.
My wife made a comment that I am not as active as I used to be and I am sitting there thinking "I think I did a lot today all things considered!". She wasn't prepared for how long it takes to get back to "normal". Neither of us had ever had joint replacement and our parents that did, we don't live with them, when we would see them they wouldn't complain or anything.
There is a learning curve and I myself did a lot of reading here before and since my surgery. I only joined recently because I am at that point where I can be easily frustrated by wanting things to move faster than they are. I am doing really well I have been told but there is that part of me that thinks maybe I can do better. Of course, I think that's just the stubborn in me!
Merlin