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ByGosh I have been fortunate enough to do some traveling in the last 20 years. My mom, who had Alzheimer's lived with us until 1992. After that, we started doing a bit of traveling when we could. I do not like flying at all, but my husband flew a great deal for business, and was able to bring us along on some trips, so I got used to it. I spent four days in London fifteen years ago. I loved it. We went to the Tower, Westminster, the British Museum, and walked all over. It was in June, and an important soccer championship between UK and France was happening-so exciting for everyone. I loved pubs.
I agree that having survived this surgery, I want to be more involved in life. I tend to spend a lot of time reading, but did an awful lot of that when I couldn't get around. Now I want to make up for lost time.
Regarding our kids, it is odd that we all had ill children. I do feel it was a miracle that she healed.
 
LeeApril26 How fortunate your Mother was to have you take care of her. That certainly wasn't easy, I know. My Dad had some demetia and a brain tumor and I took care of him for the two months he lived after his diagnosis. He died in my home with all of us here. It was a gift for me to be able to care of him. I became so much closer to him and learned so much about him and my own life. I was very lucky to experience that, although it was so very heartbreaking, too.
It's wonderful that you've traveled. My husband's parents were from Germany and traveled a lot in their later years.
My husband also traveled before we married. I was not fortunate to have that as part of my life growing up, and it seemed too hard to me with the kids and the dogs and the house to travel far. It was something I wasn't familiar with, and not used to it. I hope I will be able to someday - my husband really loves to travel.
 
I don't believe there is anything about my bout of tendinitis on the forum. It was not related to my THR. It happened while I was recovering from one of my earlier, non-THR surgeries. Those surgeries were really tough, so tendinitis wasn't the biggest thing I had going on. I just rested and iced and took NSAIDs during the acute phase of the tendinitis.

Exercise is not that useful in recovering from a repetitive stress injury. Healing isn't something you do. It's something that happens and it takes time. Soft tissue injuries can be stubborn and you don't want to give it an excuse to become a chronic issue. You might benefit from gentle stretches, but I would recommend approaching that very cautiously.
 
ByGosh I hope you will get to travel some. It is really wonderful. I did not grow up in a family that could afford to travel, nor did my husband. His first trip was to Viet Nam, courtesy of the US Army and a draft notice. I guess that set off his travel joy, though not the experience itself. When he got out of the Army and after we were married we went to Europe with a train pass and Europe on $10 a day. That kicked it off in me, too. Then came kids, a house, a lot of renovating of a 100+ year old house, aka the Money Pit. So it was really lovely to be able to travel again with his job, and on our own.

My kids really loved it when my mom moved in. She was an excellent grandma, until she couldn't figure out who these big teens were. That was very sad. I'm glad you were able to be there for your dad.

Regarding the pain and the pain clinic, I have not gone to a hypnotist, but I did use Belleruth Naperstak's CD on pain and healing when my hip was very bad, and it encourages tranquility and self-hypnosis. It was helpful, and I looked into going to a hypnotist, but couldn't find the energy to get there. Hopefully, it won't come to that for you, and your doctor will agree to give you the shots soon.
 
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Try the Elmore Oil when you massage, and the Arnica Gel - can't hurt and it may add some more antinflammation to the area.[/quote ]
ByGosh wow thank you for reminding me!! I never would have thought of that-- actually I've put the Elmore oil at the bottom of a ple and haven't tried it consistently-- I'm still working on getting over the smell, which shouldn't be an issue as it goes away after half an hour or so. I am way too picky that way, gonna have to get over it :)

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Shoe shopping? How fun - watcha buy? Anything good?
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Asics running shoes is what I came home with. I've never bought Asics before, have always found another brand more comfortable. But this time, on the 8th pair, I hit the jackpot! Mine are a different color combo, but I love how running shoes are all garish now-- kinda fun! I was at a Rack Room, where you get the second pair 50% off, but I was really tired and couldn't find anything I wanted badly enough to buy. Probably should have gotten another pair of the running shoe, LOL.
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zauberflöte Ohhhh, love those colorful shoes you bought. Very pretty - I'm sure the ones you picked out are even prettier. Neon feet - how trendy!
They really are quite nice-looking and they also look to be very well-made. I'm glad you found something that works for you! I've often wished I'd bought a second pair of shoes that I ended up loving - but it's always been too late when I realized it. I wonder if they'd honor your receipt if you went back for seconds??
 
Good morning from across the pond dear ByGosh and LeeApril26. I live on the outskirts of London in a place called Enfield. It takes 30 minutes from the station at the bottom of my road to be standing at Oxford Circus Underground Station. Oxford Circus is in the West End ( sorry LeeApril26 you most prob know all this but stay with me because I'm taking ByGosh for a little trip) where many of the large department shops are and is the centre for shopping in London. On Oxford Street there are Debenhams, John Lewis, House of Fraser, Selfridges, Marks and Spencer x 2 and myriads of smaller outlets. Cross the road at the top of Oxford Street and we'll be in Hyde Park which is enormous. If we didn't go up Oxford Street, we could just turn left and go down Regent Street which leads into Piccadilly - lots of lovely shops there too. Then we could go down onto the underground and take the Piccadilly Line to Knightsbridge and have a bite to eat in Harrods - just flash the credit card there, girls. Then back on the Piccadilly Line to Green Park. Walk across the park, wave to Her Maj when we pass Buckingham Palace and at the Palace we could visit the Queens Gallery which is marvellous and also the Palace itself which this year has a major exhibition to commemorate the 60th anniversary of the Queen's Coronation from the end of July to the end of September. We go every summer to the Palace exhibition and you can walk through the State Rooms and ooh and aah over the furniture, paintings, etc. When we exit into the gardens at the back of the Palace we'll sit down and have a lovely cup of English tea and a couple of over-priced cakes.Well, you two can - I can't eat cakes because of the diabetes. You could then visit the Palace gift shop and buy some overpriced gifts to take back to the US with you. What on earth do people do with artificial crowns? Anyway the poor old Queen needs the cash especially as the birth of her latest great-grandchild is imminent. Only fun - we both respect the Queen and think that Kate is the best thing ever. Then in the evening we could go to the theatre to round off a lovely day. While you're here we can go to the Tower of London - I've been so many times Mike says that they should give me a diamond out of the Crown Jewels. The diamonds, etc are so big you just can't believe they're real. Oh yes, and a boat trip down the Thames from Westminster to the Thames Barrier is a must. As long as it doesn't rain. We could also climb aboard a Big Bus tour and give our hips a rest. I could go on and on. I love London. I wasn't born here, I come from East Yorkshire in the north of England but I've lived here since I was eighteen years old when London truly was a big party scene - the swinging Sixties. We partied most of the night and then worked hard all day but I'm so glad I lived through those times. I love travelling. It's easy for us to travel to Europe and I've visited most European countries. We've also been to the US - we spent a month travelling from New York to California in 1993 and then a pre and post cruise stay in Ft Lauderdale two years ago. We've cruised around SE Asia and the Caribbean and we're looking forward to our trip to Canada and Alaska. We've only got one life and I just want to see the world while I can. My mum died when she was 56 years old and it changed my outlook on life forever. :flwrysmile: :flwrysmile: :flwrysmile: Ros x
 
Nylsor. Love the tour, thanks. You can take me on a trip any time. I only spent four days in London so lots more for me to see. And, I was with my husband and son, so went to pubs but no teas. Sorry you lost your mother so young. I lost my dad when I was a child-did not grow up feeling immortal, unlike my teen peers. I went through the sixties in NYC. London always sounded like more fun. Thanks again!
 
ByGosh I have just caught up with your thread and I had tears in my eyes reading about your son when he was born prematurely but he was a fighter and with your utmost dedication he grew up to be a fine lad and a real credit to you.I then read Nylsor and LeeApril26 posts about their daughters overcoming their problems as babies to grow into fine young women also a credit to them and I had more tears.So well done to all three of you for being wonderful mums and I am so pleased that all is well with all three children.

ByGosh You asked me how I managed my groin tendinitis. I don't think that I am out of the woods yet as my groin is grumbling at the moment.It seemed to get a lot better a couple of weeks ago when the left knee started to give me problems which is also intermittent. I can still walk with both issues and thats what I have been concentrating on as this is what the OS advised me to do as long as I avoided inclines and walking on sand and as long as it didn't cause pain.I was using a stationary bike without resistance and did increase the time up to 12 minutes but I decided to avoid the gym during the lovely weather. I stopped doing the exercises given to me by the physio on his advice and are doing very basic exercises on a ball to try and strengthen my core which has become very weak.I also try to engage my glutes when standing still and walking and when I remember I tuck the pelvis under as I walk.

I have just returned home and I have got my Elmore Oil samples so haven't tried it yet but have being using the home made oil2-3 times a day on the groin,adductors and knees and I think it helps a little.I still do the deep tissue massage for about a minute and a half daily but I must admit that I stopped the Arnica once I started with the oil.I think I made a mistake in reducing my Ibuprofen as the groin pain came back but I was stating to become light headed and I know from previous experience that this is probably due to long term use of Ibuprofen I was prescribed Naproxen for this reason before my op but the GP told me to discontinue it as soon as possible.I don't think paracetamol is as effective on its own.My OS told me it could take 3 months to heal so I am hoping that eventually go with time.I totally agree with all you about having the cortisone sooner to allow you to get your life back and to get back to work at the start of the new term.Will they keep the job open for you if you need a few more weeks ?

I would love to join you all in London as it sounds like fun.
 
Nylsor Oh, you gave us such a perfect tour of London. How exciting it was, so many nice places to go, so much to see! That was a great get-away for me, I just imagined myself there, and forgot all about my hips. I especially liked the shopping and eating at Harrods, the famous department store. Piccadilly sounds like an interesting place to visit and shop, and I loved Buckingham Palace, seeing the furnishings, and having tea and cakes in the garden. I'd also love to see the Crown Jewels, so extravagent. A boat ride down the Thames would give us such views - Gee, so much to do and see -- Thanks, I needed that. :SUNsmile:
You certainly have traveled a lot Nylsor - most of the world, it seems. I can see that you love it. What a wonderful way to experience other peoples and their cultures, see their cities and towns. I think that's remarkable. You're right to enjoy your life as it's too short not to.
 
Kim22 I'm glad you made it home safely and enjoyed your nice vacation. Too bad the groin is acting up, probably just the stress of a new place to walk and doing different things. It's good your Elmore samples arrived. I like it - just seems to soothes for a little while. I use the Arnica after it, too. I figure it can't hurt.
Thanks for the info on the care of your tendonitis. I find the deep massage difficult to do, as it hurts my shoulders, which are sore. But I try to do some when I put the oil on. I wouldn't be able to walk much, as it hurts. It doesn't seem as though the OS will give me the shots any sooner - he wants to see if it gets better on it's own. I doubt it, as it hasn't yet, and seems worse. But I'll just have to rest and ice as much as possible, and do very little at all, and hope for the best.

I will have to call about my job in a few weeks, and explain I've had a complication and can't return in August. I'll ask for an extension, but don't know if I'll be granted one, as I don't qualify legally, and they may not hold the position for me. I really don't know. It would love to go back when I'm able, but I feel I may need more time than they'd be happy with, unfortunately. There are so many nurses who want school nursing jobs. It's a great job when you have children, the hours are perfect, the summers are free to take care of them, and when it snows, you don't have to drive if school is called off. There's no weekends or different shifts, like in a hospital. So - they have people waiting, I'm sure.

How far are you from London, Kim22 ? It does sound like fun! I'm sure you've been there many times.
 
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I will have to call about my job in a few weeks, and explain I've had a complication and can't return in August. I'll ask for an extension, but don't know if I'll be granted one, as I don't qualify legally, and they may not hold the position for me. I really don't know. It would love to go back when I'm able, but I feel I may need more time than they'd be happy with, unfortunately. There are so many nurses who want school nursing jobs. It's a great job when you have children, the hours are perfect, the summers are free to take care of them, and when it snows, you don't have to drive if school is called off. There's no weekends or different shifts, like in a hospital. So - they have people waiting, I'm sure.​
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Well, just how rotten is that? You're ill, through no fault of your own, and in addition to the health probs you now have to worry about your job. I can tell you quite categorically that it would not happen here in the UK. When I was a manager in education, I had a couple of really awful staff who spent more time off with spurious complaints / illnesses than they ever did at work, and when they did deign to turn up they were about as effective as a chocolate teapot. They had to have two verbal warnings and then a final written warning before I could give them notice and that was based on non-performance and not on health matters. Staff here in the UK are never dismissed on grounds of ill-health. If any company tried to do this they would be taken to an employment tribunal and fined heavily. I'm so terribly sorry, ByGosh. I do hope that your condition improves soon. I'm glad you liked the trip - I'll take you on another one very soon. What are your interests? Do you like museums? I'm a member of the British Museum and they have Members' Nights when the Museum is closed to the general public. Very kind thoughts :flwrysmile: :flwrysmile: :flwrysmile: Ros x
 
Hi Nylsor You gave me an idea to call our Union Representative and see if they can let me go if it's due to illness. There may be something about a Disability Act or some legal thing where they can't. Hmmm...Good idea! I'll just get some information from her about it - doesn't hurt to ask. Maybe they will keep my job open for me awhile, but I'll definately check with her first before I call the Human Resources Dept that does the hiring. Thanks for that! :)
 
ByGosh nurses are union! That's fabulous, I don't think I knew that. By all means let us know what you find out regarding that.
Us full time union orchestra players used to (and I think they still do) get unemployment in the summer, as we qualified as seasonal workers. Management hated this so much that about a year ago (and remember I've been gone for 11 yrs) they tried to get a law passed that they were exempt, or possibly all symphony orchestras in the state were exempt, from unemployment taxes and paying claims. I don't think they got far...

Nylsor that was a great tour! Can we do the Underground sometime? :)
 
Hi ByGosh I am so sorry that you are having to worry about whether or not he job will be kept open for you if you need more recovery time due to health issues through no fault of your own.Ros is right it wouldn't happen over here a School Nurseyou would be allowed sick time on full pay for at least 6 months and then another 6 months on half pay. I hope you get some good advice from your union as it just isn't fair.

I live about 290 miles from London but it doesn't take long to get there by train.I haven't been for a long time as a visit would involve a lot of walking and my hip hasn't been up to that for some time.My daughters first job after graduating was in London and I had many lovely weekends with her there. She only stayed there for 18 months as it was very expensive to live there with most of her salary going on rent so she moved to Manchester for another job and to be close to her boyfriend who is now her husband.My husband and I lived in Buckinghamshire when we were first married and until my daughter was about six which is about 35 miles from central London.

We are still having a heat wave and its not long since I was envying your warm weather in Connecticut but although I don't wish to moan it is very humid and uncomfortable especially at night.Its quite exhausting.


Are you still taking your pain meds?I thought I could start to reduce mine but I still need them.I hope you start to improve very soon.It sounds like your OS thought this would be the case. Sending you healing thoughts and prayers.
 
Hi zauberflöte. I can see my you didn't like the smell of the Elmore Oil.It reminds me of fly spray mixed with furniture polish.The oil I made up myself using Poppets recipe was much more pleasant.
 
Kim22 wow i wouldn't go so far as fly spray!! LOL I emailed Gregor and directed him to the thread in the social room. he wrote back and said that he also thinks it smells like WD40! maybe I will have to try Poppet's recipe too :)
 
ByGosh. I think employers have to make a reasonable accommodation if a worker develops a disability, but certainly your union should know. In NYC they would have to give you disability leave for a period of time, so check local, state as well as federal requirements.
 
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