Scared newbie... Hip is shot. What if it doesn't work!!??

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@shrinkette , footwear in hospital - I could not wear any slippers without a heel. I just used my slip on shoes for those walks around the ward.

That calming feeling is real - worry not. I felt the same in the days just running up to my surgery. On the day I was totally calm - just wanting to get it done and get on with life. I must say that a big reason for my feelings was this sight. Sharing the journey and learning all you need to know helps to calm you going forward. Besides, you have a whole army of friends going with you in spirit on Tuesday. Hope there's room in OR for the surgeon! :heehee:
 
@Peaches So nice to hear from you again!! I'm sorry to read of your "unhappy hiatus" & hope it's not hip-related. Well, I'm sorry it's anything-related, for that matter!

Curtain goes up on Tuesday. Had a nice, calm day yesterday... Today I can feel some tension floating around. Most preparations are made other than finding the appropriate suitcase or duffle or something for hospital, as well as wondering if I should pack for a rehab just in case. Conflicted, to say the least. Thanks for all your helpful & sensible input. Do hope you're on track in your own recovery. Here I go...!!!
 
I just used the slippers they provided in the hospital but our hospital class told us to bring sweatpants (or some easy to put on pants) and top to wear because they would be having us get dressed for PT - to make sure you know how to do it all with new hip.... SO much better than wearing a gown. I found $5.00 sweatpants at Target :)

Ellen, you got through knee surgery - this should seem easier!! Stay calm, as my daughter (who is an MD - resident in Urology) says "this is routine surgery now" - routine for the doctors and nurses that is and they know what they are doing and will take good care of you.
 
@charmed-life I've been wearing loose-ish pull-up knit capris & tops -- a real fashionista! Seem to be the most comfy way to dress these days, so that should be fine if they make me get dressed. Loose panties, too, are good.

I know what you say is true. Also know I got through knee surgery somehow... Don't remember too much of what happened in hospital; went to rehab on 3rd day & stayed FOREVER (5 weeks, long story). Don't remember knee as being terribly painful, actually. Stiff, annoying -- yes. I even turned on that side to sleep while in rehab. It's fine! Now to its cousin, the hip.

Here's one for you: what if I can't make it to bathroom in time? Between diuretic & moving like a snail, it's a real concern.
 
Hi, @shrinkette ... I did an update on my pre-op thread. I gather you are wondering about what to take to wear to the hospital. I puzzled over that one, too. This is how it went for me: I did bring soft (soft on the inside, too! to not irritate my skin) sweats; oversized; and soft (inside & out), oversized, lightweight cotton PJs. But never wore them! Instead I just kept the hospital gown on ... BUT I insisted on another gown, to wear around the backside, like a jacket. To cover my bum. I am short, so of course the gowns were more than long enough to cover me up (below the knees) while doing PT walks, stairs, and in the chair and bed PT too. None of which was much, anyway. They gave me nonskid slipper socks to wear. I brought these slip-on clog type shoes (EasySpirit) that I'd bought prior to surgery for just that purpose. they were really easy to slip in and out of. Not really clogs in the scary sense. A high enough back to be stable. Also, I was warned in the pre-op surgery class that your feet swell and you should really get a bigger size shoe than normal. This was worth that class's weight in gold. I like many others here did find my feet got very very swollen. I bought at the last minute a pair of my favorite sneakers in a half size larger and was so happy I did that. I had the elastic shoelaces too, so they could be slipped on and off. And the long shoehorn. All of this helped as soon as I got home from surgery. But really, in the hospital, those slip-on socks and the two gowns were all I needed. I was kind of happy about that.

I don't know about rehab. My surgeon was against it since I had someone to be with me for the first 3 days. He said for a hip, the purpose of going to rehab is NOT for PT purposes. Because that first week you aren't doing arduous PT, anyway. They gave me a handout of half a dozen easy, sitting, lying down, and standing up exercises to do. My surgeon was really pretty firm in his belief that I should not go to rehab. But, his other reason was that nowadays (meaning, 2013 -- he was not referring to the new health care laws in the U.S.), most ins. companies only pay for "subacute rehab" for a single hip replacement--and that translates to basically a rehab floor in a nursing home, where he worried about me catching an infection. He said in the old days, when ins. paid for "real" rehab facilities (don't know the term for them; maybe it's something like "acute rehab"?), he said those were great. And I gather he meant for really good quality (which is not the same things as "arduous" or "no pain, no gain" stuff) PT.

All of this is my own surgeon's opinion and may or may not gell with all you've heard here. Though I don't think his opinion is out of left field and unique.

I too worried how bedridden and all I'd be right after coming home. How much of a pain I'd be for my relative staying with me those 3 days. But I really was okay. I remember even having to serve tea to a visitor a time or two (and not liking to do that ... because they were kind of demanding visitors, who assumed I was totally well since I was not in a wheelchair) and kind of being a hostess. The main thing is that you will need to exercise your right to not overdo things. You must not sit too long, lie down too long (though you have to rest!), be up too long. Visitors and family might not get that. You have to run the show (to repeat my obsessive theater cliches) and say "No mas!" if you are overdoing anything.

Others might have different ideas and tips about "to rehab or not to rehab ... that is the question."
Good luck!! I will look for your recovery thread!!!
 
In my hospital right after surgery they used a commode right by the bed (no catheter - avoid if you can to avoid UTIs) - that made it easy the first couple of hours
 
@Peaches Hi & many thanks for this post which was a wealth of info!! Great perspective on rehab; I guess I'm worried about it because I did go to one post-knee surgery, but that is a very different animal. I worry that I've lived so sedentary a life that I won't be able to do what I gotta do to escape from hospital. Maybe I'm worrying needlessly?

Info on hospital fashion was good, & exactly what I wore for TKR: 2 Hosp gowns & grippy socks. I will have a pair of knit capris & a top with me in case they make me prove I can dress myself. I wear a pair of rubber-soled slip-ons at home because I can't put on my sneakers by myself. I'll have those with me. And I have larger sneaks @ home in case of swelling. I have a pair of rubber soled canvas slip ons with elastic across the top instead of laces, but can't slip them on. I have a longer shoe horn that I can't make work, but perhaps need an even longer one. Do you stand up to use it?

So how r YOU doing? Back in the saddle, so to speak? Walking ok? Can you tie your shoelaces? What a banner day THAT'LL be! When you ice hip, btw, do you ice over incision & down the leg? Thks again!!
 
@shrinkette,,, I just have to tell you you are one lady who has EVERYTHING in order. I know that you are the one who soon after your surgery you will be on this site telling us all how wonderful you are doing. I enjoy always reading all your posts... I thank you for all you have said. I am still the one in denial who thinks my hip will cure itself. I know its not true, and that why I find such great comfort on this wonderful site. Its like having a friend who has the same problem as you,lol...thank you shrinkette,....I will be following you and I know it will be nothing but great news when you get to the other side...Be well my friend..:puppysmooze:
 
@chaseyboy hi & thanks so much for the kind words & vote of confidence. I don't feel that way right now, actually, as I make my way through the various stories of recovery. True, I am pretty prepared home-wise IF that darn lift-recliner gets to my house before I do. The store has blamed the weather for the delivery postponements. Nevertheless... Don't quite know what I'll sit on otherwise, which makes me nervous. All the recliners & couches are too low or have arms that are too low. Bed? Who knows. Office chair has been raised & is comfy, but has wheels; we await lockable casters.

As to how I do? I have no idea what this will all feel like & I'm pretty damn scared like everybody else. If it hurts a lot post-op you'd think we're so "used to" pain that we could handle it, but apparently not. Pain tolerances differ & there are just so many other variables. I think we just kind of have to take it on faith (& I don't necessarily mean the religious kind, but whatever floats your boat) that we've chosen an OS we trust, with the right credentials, affiliations, & experience, & let it go! Whatever happens, happens.

Sounds good, right? I'm not quite there yet. Still stewing over a few what-ifs & fears of the unknown. I hope I live up to your expectations -- no one would embrace that more than me. Can an almost-70-year-old overweight sedentary slug make it through fairly decently? I'll let you know.

As for you: Pluck yourself out of denial & face the hard cold facts that you can no longer escape -- Hips. Do. Not. Get. Better. Trust me. They start as pesky pains & can rather quickly & without much warning deteriorate to very terrible torture. You've got a surgery date -- hope you're not waiting for a miracle to happen or the Hip Fairy to come along & sprinkle bone morsels over you for an instant cure. Or PT, for that matter. Just accept the harsh reality & go with the BS flow ... It's inevitable anyway.

Hey, never in a million years meant to write a novella.... Sorry for the long rant/exposé/blog/lecture. Hope I didn't come across harshly... not intentional & with all sincere goodwill. Just wrapped up in anxiety as I await my Day of Destiny. My birthday is 4 days post-op! Wouldn't a good outcome be the best present??!!
 
hi ellen @shrinkette . sounds like you're good to go. almost there, which means almost after.
thinking of you and praying that all goes smoothly and easily. ben & jerry's does have a way of easing stress. :)
whatever it takes. btw, the other ellen, my ex-roommate, told me that tramadol helps the pain but also has provided her with some new imaginary friends, actual hallucinations. she knows they're not real so it doesn't bother her. glad I stopped taking that once I got home. that doesn't appeal to me. wait and see. you might be pleasantly surprised, but in any case, most everyone gets thru it pretty well and so will you. keep us posted, as I'm sure you will. devorah
 
@shrinkette....You can lecture me any time...lol...Your words of wisdom are wonderful....Everything you say is true....Remember age is just a number. Someone with your spunk and charm will come out of this just fine. I know that....:flwrysmile:...You have certainly helped me come to terms with this bump in my life...I am so looking forward to hearing from you on the other side. You are my motivation to accept this and just do it!!!!!:thumb:..Although I know my fears will constantly be there I will try to look ahead and think of how beautiful this summer will be ...and with no pain. Take tomorrow and enjoy the day as best you can. Rest...relax ...take care of yourself.You can do this girl!!!! And YES this will be your best birthday present ever!!!! And oh.... Thank you!!!!:puppysmooze: JoAnne:SUNsmile:
 
@shrinkette Ellen, how are you doing today? Are you feeling a little like I am - each day is different? Sometimes I'm very confident and looking forward to a new life post new hip and then other times I feel sooooo frightened?!? It seems to get worse at night so I assume that as I get tired, I get less confident. Thank goodness for melatonin! Almost all ready for the hospital now. Our Surgical Optimization Clinic gave us a big book with all kinds of info about pre and post op as well as in the hospital. There is a recipe for Get Up and Go Cookies which I have asked my husband to make while I'm in hospital. They come highly recommended by a recent acquaintance who just had a THR. I shall make the prune puree for the cookies today - so now you know what the 'and go' part of the recipe refers to!! Hope you're having a good day.
 
@grandma chris I'm having similar ups & downs, exacerbated by my hubby's recent pain issue (I think it's on my recovery thread), which had thrown me for a loop at this worse possible time. So... I think I would be coping better if not for my worry about him & what it means for when I get home because he's always such a rock.

Plan to pack hosp bag tonight or tomorrow. Have stuff out & ready. Stay strong. Almost there. No pain. New life. Let's go. ❤❤❤
 
Hi @shrinkette

It sounds like you are all organised for the big day....I'm wishing you luck and saying prayers for your surgery which in Oz time is less than 24 hrs away!!!!!!

See you much improved on the other side!!!!!!
 
Hi, @shrinkette ... you're more than welcome. My surgeon kept saying to me "Now if this were a KNEE ... we'd be talking about rehab for sure." He always reminded me a knee is indeed really different and harder than a hip. If I ever need a TKR, I will come to you for tips and to help peel me off the ceiling. I tend to think you will be okay not going to rehab for your hip, but of course you need to do what you feel you are comfortable with. As for the shoe horn, I would sit down and do a contorted marionette dance to get the shoe shoehorned on. The tongue was always the problem (I wore sneakers primarily as they gave me the most comfort and stability. Still wear them more than I should.) You sound as prepared literally and mentally as one can be. As the time nears, I hope knowing this sinks in and gives you comfort. You seem to have another thread going on on the post-op side, so perhaps I should start checking in on THAT one since the hour is near.

I see you had some questions for me, which I've cut and pasted here:
So how r YOU doing? Back in the saddle, so to speak? Walking ok? Can you tie your shoelaces? What a banner day THAT'LL be! When you ice hip, btw, do you ice over incision & down the leg?

I just celebrated my 9-month anniversary post-op, but am as active as I am here not because of problems with the operated hip but because the other hip is raising cain. The new hip is doing very well. No problems. It walks me well! And makes up for the other hip that sometimes gives me a hard time. Thanks for asking. When I was icing the hip routinely in the first weeks or maybe months after surgery, yes, I had a very large gel ice bag that I would rest alongside the hip, somewhat over the incision, while lying down or sitting. Kind of like a saddle bag. I had the posterolateral approach. I can tie my shoelaces, but I took my sweet time doing so because my surgeon imposed a very lengthy restriction regarding bending down to the operated foot. I just didn't rush things, wore sneakers with elastic laces a lot, used the shoehorn and sock thing without worrying about a time frame. But yes, it felt great to finally be able to bend over and cut those toenails and tie the laces. In your recovery thread you will soon be posting about all these milestones and how fun it is to reach them. Hope you have as decent a night's sleep as possible. Hang in there. You are almost on the road!
 
@dickinson hi, Devorah. Thanks for touching base. You sound like you're coming along rather uneventfully... So glad! What do you take for pain now that you're off Tramadol? Were you able to get into bed when you got home -- ah, you were in a rehab first! Please think good thoughts Tuesday morning -- what's that in Israel? You're 7 hrs ahead, I think. Surgery is scheduled for about 9:30 am est. I'm not formally religious, but hey... Prayers would be good. Thanks for sticking with me. Anybody who's a friend of Ben & Jerry is a friend of mine!

Ellen ❤❤
 
@chaseyboy Ah, you flatter me, JoAnne. Glad I didn't ruffle your feathers in my last post... I thought I came on a bit strong. I am especially happy to have helped you in some way. L

This is it. All I can do is my best as well as hope that my OS does his, & that there are no awful surprises. The rest is in the lap of the gods. See ya...

Ellen❤❤
 
Best wishes Ellen, @shrinkette - we will be watching your post op thread in anticipation :)
 
Best wishes tomorrow. Your original post sounded so much like the way I feel. Now that i've read them all and all of the wonderful responses you've received I feel as if my own questions have been answered. I'm also a past TKR and keep hanging on to the fact that I've been told that the THR (while not a walk in the park) is a bit easier.
 
Hello my friend I'm praying you surgery is a success and the road to victory is sweet. I just got the call that my check in time is 7:45 am Thursday morning a day behind yours . You and I will be fine
 
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