Re: Out of work question?
Rick, congratulations on your impending return to work! It's a major milestone, but you sound confident. That's half the fight.
I lived in Providence for 7 years. Nice town. Really enjoyed going up to Federal Hill and visiting the Italian restaurants.
I have worked as a rehabilitation counselor for 23 years. Basically, I help people with disabilities return to work. These days most of my clients have mental health issues, but I have worked with lots of physically challenged folks as well. I'm sure that I've worked with 3000+ clients over the years.
So, I have some ideas about return to work, based on professional experience plus my own adventures as a fairly new hippie. I hope some of these ideas will be useful.
First, read Josephine's article on a phased return to work. She is absolutely spot on.
Second, work is inherently stressful. A stress is any stimulus that evokes a response. Your bedside alarm going off is a stress. Your partner asking, "Honey could you please..." is a stress. Work is full of stresses all day long. You are required to produce something, to reach certain goals. Usually this happens on the employer's schedule, not your own. People demand things of you. You may have to deal with people who you really don't like. You certainly will have to do some things that you don't like, and you will have to tolerate some level of boredom. At times you cannot take a break no matter how you feel. I could go on and on, but the point is that work for someone else, even pleasant satisfying work, is stressful. It is much much more stressful than recovering at home.
Everyone has a level of stress that he or she can tolerate. This is a very individual matter, everyone is different. And, there are many different types of stresses--some of us tolerate certain types of stress better than others. Unpleasant things happen when our stress tolerance is exceeded. Symptoms such as fatigue, irritability, and anxiety are very common. They tell us that our stress tolerance is being tested.
We hippies have endured significant stress from our surgeries and rehab. Our stress tolerance is pretty low. We need to build it back up in order to work successfully. So here are some suggestions as to how that can be done.
As I mentioned, start back part time. If that is tolerable, add more hours.
Talk with your boss before your return. Make sure that any needed accommodations are in place. Do you need frequent walking breaks? A raised toilet seat? Access to ice on demand? Temporary assignment to light duty (applies mostly to manual workers)? A variable work schedule? Just make sure that everything is in place before you return.
Make sure that you can have time off for any needed medical appointments. Try to schedule those appointments for off hours if possible.
If you can, work part time from home before returning to the workplace. You can comfortably improve your stress tolerance, and feel useful and productive at the same time.
Anticipate the possibility of setbacks, and plan for them. Just because you have returned to work, do not assume that your recovery is complete.
Finally, know your rights under the Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA) and the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA). Read up on these Acts, know your rights. Those who have chronic disabilities may benefit from services from their State Vocational Rehabilitation agencies (VR). VR can help with workplace accommodations, job counseling and placement, and a host of other challenges faced by those with chronic or permanent disability.
I hope that this has not been too technical, but it seemed like a good opportunity to chime in. My OS told me that I'd be back to work in 4-6 weeks. I'm now about 7 weeks out from surgery and still working on several issues that are keeping me from work. But I will get there, and so will you. Peace.