Hi Rita. Each of us is completely different, so as you've seen, comparing to someone else's recovery is futile. But a couple things you said stand out to me.
1. You limp when you walk without the cane. Yet...you do without the cane for part of the day. I can only think that sets you back in learning to retrain your gait and walk without a limp.
2. You are describing pain that is still present most of the time in your upper right thigh, along with swelling and pain in your right knee. That suggests a combination of two things to me....one is that you are under-medicating, and the second is that you are overdoing.
3. Plus pain is why you still limp.
I had....and still occasionally get....a great deal of muscle weakness in my quads. For me, it feels like a deep fatigue and ache, and I feel like my legs are made of wood when it happens. I've pinpointed that it tends to come on when I've left my sweet zone of activity. Either I get a period of way too much inactivity (hello, winter!) or conversely, I way overdo. I know from past experience that I could sidestep it entirely if I stayed on Celebrex continuously, but one of my major goals was to get off of all medications. So I put up with it occasionally now, and work at modulating my activity level. But I did find that I needed to stay on it for a good five months after my first THR, and for nine months after my second.
In regard to your upper thigh pain, especially if you are overdoing your activity level, check out this information about bursitis. It's a common problem for us hippies. See if this describes what you're feeling.
Trochanteric bursitis with THR
Again, at risk of being a broken record (wow....I just realized that we're raising a whole new generation of kids who will never know that sound!!)....you are a
mere 6 weeks out. It is common to need effective pain control for anywhere from 2 to 6 months easily. And it's just as common to return to real life way too soon. You're a mom of three kids....so was I....I know what that real life demands of you. But really backing it off and making your recovery a top priority now will get you back to where you can keep up with your kids. It took a while after my surgeries....but I walk without a limp, I bike ride, I was out dancing just this evening, and tomorrow I'll be keeping up with my grandkids. Give yourself a real chance, and you will get your pain-free active life back.
Sharon