@JamesUK Congrats on your new hip! I'm sorry you got off to such a rocky start but am thrilled to read that you are doing so well! There are many Jameses in my family so good name, including my dad.
I'm always curious. What led to your replacement by age 40? I'm 45 and had my right done 5 months ago and just did my left due to hip dysplasia, labral tears, cam impingements and some osteoarthritis (all revealed after a rear end car accident that left me with sprained SI joints).
It's really awesome that you are doing so well so early on. From reading through many threads, BoneSmart has many more realistic stories. Other forums I kept reading the magical "3 weeks and I was doing blah blah blah" all over the place. I think it made hip one more difficult mentally for me, but BoneSmart really helped me to see that I was not alone. I haven't been able to do cardio for 3.5 years since the car accident...literally....I tried everything you could think of, but I was left to water walking, and even 20 minutes of that had my muscles all knotted up and miserable, even with the hot tub after. I'm glad you were able to continue with cardio and staying in good shape heading into your surgery.
I think you make really good points about pre-op preparation. I just went through nursing school (second career - first was a teacher), and I also have several friends who are in their 60s and 70s who have had hip and/or knee replacements in the last two years. I went to a hip preservationist who also performs PAOs on younger (20s/early 30s) patients with dysplasia. He does many hip replacements as well, but most of his patients are on the "younger side". I cannot tell you how prepared I felt going into my first surgery. He has his own personal PT in his practice who meets with patients prior and who evaluates patients 6 weeks post op. I had an entire booklet (not huge, but describing the procedure, discussing pain, preparation, constipation, complications and what to do, etc.). None of the friends I spoke with had anything like what I had. Their post op care is great, and they are extremely responsive. With his patients, he says most feel better around 12 weeks and are glad they did it by 6 months. Although I'm not to the six month mark, that rang true for me. I don't know if it has to do with all the muscle compensations or what, but I was given a realistic time line. At 6 weeks, when PT evaluated me, they told me to get PT for soft tissue work and strengthening, but NO HIP FLEXOR strengthening due to research and it showing that sets people back. They also put me in the pool for water walking. My point to all of this is that I was one day outpatient. They are connected to a hospital in case someone needs to be admitted, but I felt so prepared that coming home the same day did not concern me.
From talking with friends and also going through nursing school recently (and probably with my education background), I feel like pre-op care overall (at least in many places in the US) is lacking, as well as post-op care. I feel like I have read so many people's post op instructions that just are totally lacking, and when people go for their follow-ups, they find out they should have done somethings differently and now maybe have some contractures to deal with or other complications). I was very fortunate to find the practice and surgeon I found, and that is what made me feel okay about coming home the same day. Both times all worked out. Both hips are drastically different, and so far my current one is way less painful. 2 weeks out and I might take a muscle relaxant at bed if I feel the muscles are causing the pain. It's nice to read on here that many people have found excellent surgeons they really trust, but I have also had many say their preparation and post op was more hands off (my surgeon obviously has a team, but I will see him at my 6 week appt...with my first I had the smallest amount of drainage and called after-hours. Within minutes he called on his personal phone and asked me to text him images). I really trust his team.
I wish you well as you continue to recover and hope that you can live pain free once again.