Ramp, I've edited your images as they were mostly black! But they also have great definition so I was able to get a really good look at the state of your hips. These were very helpful and FWIW, this is my opinion
The cams show up really well on this image (red arrows) and are pretty large. The damage, aka arthritic changes, are also evident (blue arrows). As you said, it's pretty clear those are hips that need replacements not arthroscopic treatment.
I am just wanting to make sure that I find out why both these doctors had such different opinions. If the arthritis is so bad then fine give it to me, but if it is mild then maybe I don't need to rush for one and I can manage it for a bit and look to fix other problems.
I will tell you that the condition of your hips is not mild at all and in my professional opinion, is unlikely to be resolved by arthroscopic surgery.
However, it's not always about the xray findings. Very often over the years, I have seen xrays that were absolutely dreadful and yet the patients were getting around on them with only moderate pain and disability. At the same time, xrays that showed very limited damage were from patients who were in extreme pain and in desperate need of treatment. It's not about pain thresholds, it's about
where the arthritis is and how it impacts on joint functions. To that end, I've attached a scoring chart to this post which you should print off and complete. The end results are for you alone though you could show them to your surgeon to enforce your case. They are based upon the traditional scoring tools that orthopaedic surgeons regularly use.
But I do urge you to get over the fact that you are 'so young' because that's no longer true. Hip replacements are no longer the sole arena of the septuagenarian! In fact, the numbers of people
under 60 (sexagenarian) having hips replacements are steadily increasing and it won't be long before the numbers outstrip the septuagenarians and octogenarians!