Jawndo-
After working up the courage to get 'er done, I had ny LTKR on May 14, 2014. (RTKR on Jan. 16, 2012). For Kr #1, I cried every day for five weeks. "What did I do? Why was I in so much pain? When was I ever going to feel better?" You name it, I cried about it. I knew my left knee needed to be replaced, but I wasn't ready until this winter (avid snowshoer). I feel like I've learned from my last TKR how to manage my discomfort better this time. I've also learned that the process, as so many others have said, is out of my control. I can't make my knee heal faster; it's going to take its own sweet time, and TG for that. I'd push to the point of discomfort and my knee would respond with, "Oh, yeah? You think...you're going to tromp around the uneven backyard, walk 4/10's of a mile, etc?" Each overzealous attempt on my part is countered with my knee's reaction: STOP! lEG UP! ICE!
I've learned, from last time to this time, that, as they say in 12 step programs, time takes time. I've learned, from the smarties on BS, to take my meds on time. I've learned, through my own growth and development, that trying to do something to please others (sitting at the dinette table to share a meal that a well meaning friend has prepared and brought over) does me no good. I've had to set boundaries, ask for help (very hard for me, a single and independent woman), and follow what my body suggests is best for the moment.
I started I PT a week after surgery, which was a week before I started with my right knee two + years ago. In some ways, I think it's put me ahead in terms of movement; however, it's also given me more ouch moments for working very tender tissues. One of the hardest parts of this whole process has been the difference of opinions between USA and UK experts. I have to sort out what works for me, but it does cause anxiety.
I hope you're feeling a bit better. The goals are determined by the knee (I am hoping that, like my other KR, that by Week 5, I will have turned a corner on the pain, but I am aware that that might not be true this time.) I really like the graph on BS that shows approximate recovery rate by weeks. It certainly rang true for me.
Keeping you, as I do myself, in white light and in God's hands. Gentle guidance from a benevolent higher power will see us through.