@hipsrus, happy to hear that things are going better! Sleep was very difficult for me after my THR. I couldn't (and also wasn't allowed) to sleep even on my unoperated side until 6 weeks. Even then, when I started trying on my side, it wasn't really comfortable for a month after that. I've never been able to sleep on the surgical side for very long. After my second hip surgery (not a THR), I wasn't able to sleep reliably on unoperated side until recently, at about 10 weeks. I cannot sleep flat on my back due to sleep apnea, so I sat propped up with pillows after the THR, and I got a hospital bed for my home after the second op, which allowed for much better sleep, as that provided a much more stable surface to recline on, and my feet could go up, too.
The surgeon that I used for my second hip surgery was my second opinion doctor. Both that practice and the one I had before had follow-ups at 2 weeks, 6 weeks and 90 days. The 90th day appointment is with the surgeon, and the two previous are with the physician's assistant.
If I were you, with all that has happened, your questions, and what is to come, I'd definitely get that second opinion. They are expected and shouldn't be a problem for anyone. And, with your current doc, how can you plan a surgery without seeing the surgeon, especially considering your unusual situation? I'd be very uncomfortable with that.