@TerryB_TX Thank you for your well wishes!! I am beginning to feel better this afternoon and my logical mind is dominating instead of my nerves and fear, so I am going in to packing and how-to-recover-mode, or at least what to do during the recovery when I am awake...
I absolutely went through the stage you are in, and it is a very familiar feeling -- I veered between being angry, fearful, unbelieving, and then wrestling myself down with logic, with an overlay of "this is just a bad dream, this isn't really happening, right?".
I found out quickly enough on this site what Josephine just posted to you above: it is not likely you will know what caused your implant loosening. That may feel maddening right now, but I know I wasted some energy trying to figure it all out, and months later, to this day I still do not know precisely, though there have been some comments about my femoral implant being too short. If I can help you stop wondering about the cause even a little bit here, that will make my day!
I was told late last year I need a revision, but I took my time finding who and where to do it. I have been on limited activity since that time, working from home, not doing a lot of walking as I didn't want to become an emergent care patient in the ER if I overdid it! I actually KNEW somewhere in my brain before I was diagnosed with a loose implant that something was very wrong, but I put up with a lot of pain over the last three years--probably too long. So I when I heard the words leaving the original surgeon's mouth that I needed a revision I was shocked but perhaps not totally completely flabbergasted in full, but still in part, if that makes any sense--again that "bad dream" feeling but also an explanation other than "it's just me, I am not supposed to hurt, it must be me!".
I'm not sure if any of this resonates with you, but whatever you are feeling, I can reassure you that eventually you will feel more calm and collected and you will get through this, as I have so far, and others here have as well.
One coping method might be to ask and research a lot of questions you might have, maybe type up a long list of questions and observations before you see the revision surgeon(s). My pain skipped around in my thigh and groin, and I could never quite pin-point it when it didn't hurt a lot, so I had to really pay attention and write observations down to be able to explain--yet the X-rays were pretty clear when they were finally taken.
If you can have someone go with you to the doctors' appts. to take notes on their responses that is really helpful too--I was at first in such a fog I couldn't remember accurately enough what was said, so my companion's notes were critical to add to my own. You don't get much time with many surgeons, but by my third try, I did spend enough time and had my questions well formed, and I felt he actually gave me the time of day and then some. I also very quickly stopped hoping one of them would say "Oh, you don't need this surgery, you'll be fine"! Another pipe dream eliminated very early on in the process by this site, and just as well.
Doing research on my own behalf kept me sane and focused. I am not a whiner by nature, and I was able to contain my emotions to a degree which helped me ultimately understand and feel that the sky wasn't falling, although the first few days/weeks it certainly felt that way. As I said before, this site is priceless, and I think you have done the best thing for yourself by joining it--I hope you will be able to have something of a weekend now that you have found it! Your feelings of anxiety and confusion will recede into the background as you make a plan for yourself which will unfold as quickly or as slowly as is right for you. I needed to get my work life in some order first, which I took a few months to do, perhaps you have the luxury, or the need, to have this done right away, or not -- all part of the planning. I have been very calm for months, but this last week, I feel like I can't believe it will happen so soon! I think nerves, and suddenly feeling a lack of courage, will simmer down to a calmness and an acceptance again before the surgery (it is happening already today as I research my recovery plan--there is my Type A personality going into full gear) --- and then voila, I will wake up after surgery and I hope it will all be worth it.
I hope for you that the shock begins to wears off, and you begin to see that this will be a pretty good shot at getting some quality of life back. The odds are still very much in our favor, just remember that point when you feel most down. I would take the surgical odds and percentages of success with a revision if I had any other serious illness happening in my body for sure! Until then, keep asking your questions and expressing your concerns etc. on this site -- we all understand, better than even the most beloved people in our lives who can't possibly know no matter how hard they try!