I did have a small bit of AVN in my knee that resulted in my first knee replacement, so I understand some of the fears and uncertainty you may be feeling. It in no way compares with your situation where the necrosis is evident in multiple joints. But I can say that even a small amount of dying bone can be horribly painful….as mine was.
The necrosis does not improve. This is the fact you need to keep in mind. It may stay the same for a while or worsen steadily. Or the pain can suddenly get much worse like you’re experiencing now. Since it’s in all four of your joints, you need a surgeon who is comfortable dealing with this situation and not putting things off to see if the pain settles. It might, but not because anything has magically healed.
I would go with your gut feeling about Surgeon #1….that he’s just beyond his level of expertise in dealing with your level of AVN. I suggest you make an appointment as soon as possible with Surgeon #2 to discuss where you are now. Ask questions about patients he’s treated with AVN in multiple joints to see how comfortable he is in dealing with your problem now that you have AVN in your knees. See if he still thinks bilateral procedures are the way to go.
It may be that your recovery from any joint surgery now will be a bit more challenging than normal. But, think of the challenges ahead if you don’t get started getting this fixed. It will at some point get worse. But once the necrotic bone is cut out and your implant is in place, there is no more bone death there. Your body can begin to heal for real. This is an important point.
If you meet with Surgeon #2 and still have concerns about your options, don’t hesitate to see a third surgeon or maybe even a fourth. It is so important to have the right doctor to work with. It’s worth some searching. I’m happy to help you find additional surgeons to consult, if you’ll just let me know. You may have to do a little driving to get to see people who are totally independent when reviewing your case, but you’re worth this effort. It’s your quality of life for the remainder of your years that you’re considering. It’s important to make choices that will give you the best opportunity for good mobility and far less pain.