@MathSci4me. Hi. I'm fairly new to Bonesmart and I just read what you're going through. I just have to comment. Keep in mind that I'm no expert and can only tell you my experience but it's similar to yours. Getting my ROM up to that elusive and magical number of 90 almost killed me (too much drama there). My OS, like yours, sent me to PT, 3x per week. The therapist they sent me to was experienced and I accepted whatever he told me to do because I didn't know otherwise. But, I ran into trouble quickly. He put me through grueling and difficult sessions usually longer than 90 minutes each. I would have increased pain and swelling after each session. I found had Bonesmart online before my surgery but did not know much about what to expect AFTER surgery and specifically what to expect FROM my PT. I learned here that I should tell my PT not to push on my leg. He had been doing that in order to increase my ROM. According to him this was for my own good as I only had so much time to get that number up. If I didn't do it, my OS would send me for an MUA (manipulation under anesthesia). My OS hadn't mentioned that but I hadn't seen him since I'd left the hospital so I took the PT's word on this.
I'll cut this story short and tell you what I've learned...
1. I have the RIGHT to tell my PT to stop whenever he hurts me.
2. I should NOT let him hurt me.
3. I have the RIGHT to choose my own PT (which I just did a few days ago - I fired my original PT and found a new one).
4. I am NOT REQUIRED to go to PT (I think I do need PT but I'd be better off doing it by myself at home than allowing an aggressive PT to hurt me).
5. My knee is swollen and it is the swelling that is inhibiting the ROM.
6. Too much exercise, or exercise that is too aggressive, causes more swelling.
7. The PT I was receiving was actually holding me back as it caused cycles of increased swelling which, in turn, kept my ROM low.
8. Even if my OS recommends MUA, I can refuse or delay it.
9. Pain meds are NECESSARY!
10. Ice & elevate, ice & elevate, ice & elevate...
11. If my body says to rest -- Rest!
12. Ask doctor for anti-inflammatory if you think you need one.
13. Don't be surprised when you get conflicting advice, from experts!
14. IT IS MY KNEE!!
Let me add this, my ROM is climbing now. I have left aggressive therapy behind. It takes time for swelling to be reduced; patience is required.
Good luck to you! Keep reading Bonesmart.