... it just seems like too much right now.
Our gut feelings tend to be amazingly on target. I'd say listen to yours. At this point in recovery a 3 hour car ride will be uncomfortable. If you decide to go, there are a few things you can do to make the ride (both ways) and stay a little more comfortable.
You can make the car ride more bearable by stopping a few times along the way and getting out to walk and stretch your muscles and ease the stiffness in your knee. Otherwise, at the end of the trip, you will have a LOT of stiffness.
Pack some ice packs (or bags of frozen veggies) in a cooler, and use those during the ride to help ease pain and swelling. Use them as needed throughout your trip. It really helps if you are not the driver! There are ice packs you can strap on your knee that will work for driving.
If you will be out and about during the day... that could present problems. Lots of walking = lots of pain later. You may not be up to it and will have to cut short whatever activity you are doing. It would be much better if you could just sit and talk somewhere. Better yet might be if you skip the wine-tasting (or part of it, if you sense you can't do it) and just meet up later for dinner.
Your knee isn't going to cut you any slack or be cooperative for an afternoon on promises you will be nicer to it later. Knees don't negotiate; they are where they are. Be honest with yourself about what your knee is up to doing... and then do everything possible to stay within its limits. If you overextend yourself, you will be dealing with it later. Sometimes the event is worth it, but only you can determine that.
Ain't being an adult fun?
