Hi ravenina,
I’m sorry to read of your struggles with depression. Thankfully you found a place in BoneSmart to share and not feel so alone. It sounds like you have a great group of care giving friends who obviously love you, that’s a blessing.
I’m sure you’ve heard that no two recoveries are alike, even with the same person, so please don’t let your current recovery get you down. I’m assuming you’ll have the same great result as your first THR. Please have patience with yourself as you’ve recently endured major surgery and healing takes time. At not quite one month post op, you’re in the very early days in the entire scheme of things. I’m surprised you were partially awake during your surgeries. That would alarm me. Like you, I didn’t see my surgeon before I was discharged from my surgery site either and not until I was three months into recovery. I did see his PA though at three weeks post op. I’m sorry about the hematoma, that does sound traumatic and frightening. I believe it would be upsetting to most.
You’re relatively young, as young as you’ll ever be, most likely with a lot of life still ahead to enjoy. I’m sure recovering in a foreign country, away from family is difficult, but thankfully you do have your friends and you have us! Perfect strangers from all over the globe who care enough to try and lift your spirits through support and encouragement. Sometimes I’m in awe of the people we can communicate with here on any given day. Other days, I simply take it for granted, but when you think about it, it’s really pretty special. Like having pen pals as a young girl.
A depressed mood is understandable. You’re not feeling yourself as you heal from the controlled trauma your body endured. You feel dependent and lonely. The more you heal, the more independent you‘ll become and less lonely as you’ll be able to get around with more ease and out and about more often. Go back to your Recovery Guidelines and read the article on Post Op Blues. You’re not alone in this.
Try to let go of the guilt in asking for help, I’m sure you’d do the same for your friends if they were in need and if they are unable to help, I’m guessing they’ll politely decline.
It sounds like you’re getting out and socializing with friends. Maybe you should try to do that more often so you feel less lonely and as a mood booster. Consider committing to a daily walk. Start out slow and increase time and distance in small increments. It could be beneficial in improving your mood and alleviating depression. Get those endorphins going, lol.
Try not to focus on blood work results for now. Your appointment will be here before you know it and hopefully new labs will return normal results. You’ve been through a lot, but things will begin looking up with brighter days ahead.
I hope you have a good week. Hugs
@ravenina