I try not to read posts from those hippies skiing after just 2 weeks post surgery or similar!
Good...because they're most likely lying anyway. There's a thread on that topic in the Social Area that may give you ladies some laughs -
https://bonesmart.org/forum/threads/tall-tales-from-the-thr-fairy-tale-book.49667/
I sympathize with your frustration in things not being kept up to your standards. It can feel unsettling. My hubs was also very attentive but his organizational and cleaning skills are lacking. Each time I'd get out of my recliner I was afraid to look at the mountain of dirty dishes teetering on the counters edge with each kitchen cabinet door wide open and dust bunnies dancing about the kitchen floor. My center island had become Command Central and nothing remotely kitchen related could be found on its surface.
All you can do is laugh....or cry as I did one morning to my mom on the phone.
Within hours she and my sister were over, vacuuming, doing dishes etc. I was extremely thankful and felt much more relaxed afterward.
Is there anyone you can call in for favors? I believe that when people offer to help out, or ask you to notify them if you need anything, they mean it. At least I'm sincere when I offer myself, or the words don't come out of my mouth.
At six months post op, you still have healing going on. Some heal at a slower pace than others. However, you will get there. Hang in there and stop by often. We'll be here for you.
@Misscarol
I have every confidence you are currently taking steps in the right direction and as long as you can stay focused and busy, I'll bet things improve quickly. I will reiterate from elsewhere what I posted and that is to structure your days ahead of time. Fill them, squeezing out time for negative thinking to take over. Invite people into your home and create happy memories with loved ones there so your home becomes your refuge and happy place making others want to visit and a spend time there also.
I hope you both have a great day!