Dedicated_Dad
junior member
I've been thinking on this a lot.
My Surgeon did my knee for me on literally 1.5 days' notice. I called him on Friday afternoon, in a jam, and he did my knee on Tuesday AM. I am and will always be very grateful to him for this - you HAVE to know how much it took to make this happen. The gals at the hospital told me "we told him it wasn't possible, he said 'you can, you must, and you WILL. Make it happen!' "
I MUST be grateful for that!
That said, he didn't handle the problems I have had well at all. At first he reassured me, then he got defensive, then finally basically questioned my mental health. He never really tried to figure it out... "It's plastic and metal. Sometimes they make noise, we don't really know why. You'll get used to it!"
He seemed OK with the first "second opinion" -- the one that basically said "dunno - -come back in a year if it's still bugging you..." -- but I got a really odd vibe from him about the ANSWER I found. "Well -- I guess that's another theory..." It was like he didn't want to hear it.
Now that I have a diagnosis and solution, I have to decide who should do the work. I'll need an arthroscopy / fat pad (scar tissue??) excision, and possibly a new plastic bearing component.
Honestly, I'm pretty convinced it's going to need the thicker plastic, but will "play along" with the other stuff -- I'm willing to be wrong but have thought from the beginning it was too loose. The other Docs have said it was loose, but carefully said "not necessarily TOO loose..."
I know my Doc has the skills, but ... even when I told him what I'd learned, he was... odd. I'm not getting "warm and fuzzies" from him.
Still, it's a small town, and ... I really don't want to change surgeons. Before my TKA I'd planned on seeing another Doc, just on "GP"... I'd talk to 2 dealers before buying a car, so... He said he'd be happy to care for me after, regardless of who did my TKA. At this point, I'm not sure he'd be happy about someone else doing this work... Then again, I don't know if he'd do it, or ....
Part of me worries that with his "attitude" he may not do more than he had to... if the Doc says "excise the fat pad" he may not look for other scar tissue or whatever while he's in there... I'd like to know that whoever goes in will look around and be sure all else is as expected, not just in-snip-out...
I just don't know.
He's always taken good care of me in the past, but this experience and things I've heard from others make me think he doesn't handle "complications" very well... Seems like people either love him or hate him, and anyone with a problem seems to be in the "hate" category. I haven't found anyone to say "well, I had a problem but he fixed it." They all seem to have -- like me -- ended up having to go elsewhere for a solution because he didn't want to hear it.
Further, I once overheard him "ranting" about another patient who was complaining of pain several weeks after an arthroscopy, still riding a chair and crutches... -- "I told her she needed a psychiatrist." Funny -- that's basically what he said to me...
I'm torn. Gratitude makes me want to trust him, but...
I'm mixed up, and would welcome advice.
DD
PS: I also think, after reading my surgical notes, that I know why it's loose. It seems he did all the trial components before releasing the lateral compartment to give me full extension. I think this changed the "geometry" and caused it to be looser than it was when it was stuck at ~ -15... Does that make sense?
My Surgeon did my knee for me on literally 1.5 days' notice. I called him on Friday afternoon, in a jam, and he did my knee on Tuesday AM. I am and will always be very grateful to him for this - you HAVE to know how much it took to make this happen. The gals at the hospital told me "we told him it wasn't possible, he said 'you can, you must, and you WILL. Make it happen!' "
I MUST be grateful for that!
That said, he didn't handle the problems I have had well at all. At first he reassured me, then he got defensive, then finally basically questioned my mental health. He never really tried to figure it out... "It's plastic and metal. Sometimes they make noise, we don't really know why. You'll get used to it!"
He seemed OK with the first "second opinion" -- the one that basically said "dunno - -come back in a year if it's still bugging you..." -- but I got a really odd vibe from him about the ANSWER I found. "Well -- I guess that's another theory..." It was like he didn't want to hear it.
Now that I have a diagnosis and solution, I have to decide who should do the work. I'll need an arthroscopy / fat pad (scar tissue??) excision, and possibly a new plastic bearing component.
Honestly, I'm pretty convinced it's going to need the thicker plastic, but will "play along" with the other stuff -- I'm willing to be wrong but have thought from the beginning it was too loose. The other Docs have said it was loose, but carefully said "not necessarily TOO loose..."
I know my Doc has the skills, but ... even when I told him what I'd learned, he was... odd. I'm not getting "warm and fuzzies" from him.
Still, it's a small town, and ... I really don't want to change surgeons. Before my TKA I'd planned on seeing another Doc, just on "GP"... I'd talk to 2 dealers before buying a car, so... He said he'd be happy to care for me after, regardless of who did my TKA. At this point, I'm not sure he'd be happy about someone else doing this work... Then again, I don't know if he'd do it, or ....
Part of me worries that with his "attitude" he may not do more than he had to... if the Doc says "excise the fat pad" he may not look for other scar tissue or whatever while he's in there... I'd like to know that whoever goes in will look around and be sure all else is as expected, not just in-snip-out...
I just don't know.
He's always taken good care of me in the past, but this experience and things I've heard from others make me think he doesn't handle "complications" very well... Seems like people either love him or hate him, and anyone with a problem seems to be in the "hate" category. I haven't found anyone to say "well, I had a problem but he fixed it." They all seem to have -- like me -- ended up having to go elsewhere for a solution because he didn't want to hear it.
Further, I once overheard him "ranting" about another patient who was complaining of pain several weeks after an arthroscopy, still riding a chair and crutches... -- "I told her she needed a psychiatrist." Funny -- that's basically what he said to me...
I'm torn. Gratitude makes me want to trust him, but...
I'm mixed up, and would welcome advice.
DD
PS: I also think, after reading my surgical notes, that I know why it's loose. It seems he did all the trial components before releasing the lateral compartment to give me full extension. I think this changed the "geometry" and caused it to be looser than it was when it was stuck at ~ -15... Does that make sense?