Hi
@ValleyGirl... yes, it does get wearisome and worrisome, both, when you keep hearing scary stuff! I have been there, too.... healing from my first TKR had me in a similar place as you are, too... until I found Bonesmart and really backed off listening to the scare tactics and staying away from the scare mongers! (How appropriate: it's scary Halloween time!)
I think YOU really need to decide what YOU want to do; it will be really hard to be pulled back toward the scary side then back toward a more natural and normal, slower but steadier recovery, in my opinion. I finally had to stop going to PT, and I canceled one of the followups with my OS, so I could allow my knee more time to heal. And, it worked out perfectly, as I was where I felt was good by the 6 month mark for the third follow-up (I skipped the 2nd at 3 months).
But, there is LOTS of evidence amongst people here that your ROM continues to improve gradually over time. I think my left (#1) knee got better over at least a 2-year period, in fact. I just didn't track it and measure it.
And, you've joined the ODIC, too! The Over-Did-It-Club! It is SO easy to do, because your new knee is not your old knee, and it gets cranky way easier than old knee did, plus you and this new one aren't best buddies yet, so you don't always hear it's signs and messages about what's too much! I know this, and I've been there, oh, maybe a dozen times?! Just keep up with the icing and elevation! Elevation was harder for me to remember to do after a while, since if by then I wasn't sitting much with my leg up... it still happens once in a while and I'm 6 months out. When I first got my puppy and he was such a leash puller, my quads and new knee were really pushed! (I solved the pulling problem mostly now, so not usually having trouble...)
Hang in there! Yes, overdoing it IS normal, annoyingly so!! Sending virtual support!!