Solar7
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My parents are going to be my primary caretakers when/if I get surgery done. I am currently unemployed, and work has always been a really big pain point between my family and I. My career stresses me out to no end, so I hate work. They would view getting back to work as something they want to do - in fact my dad retired last year and has already re-entered the workforce because he was bored. So they've always been dismayed that I can't seem to find work fulfilling or as something I take pride in and want to do.
I'm wondering if anyone has some resources that are maybe a little bit more conservative with how quickly people were able to get back to work. My parents are unlikely to take personal stories from this forum or anywhere else on message boards with any kind of seriousness.
Because my work leaves me so emotionally and mentally drained (I work in advertising - media planning/digital media, most recently as a Director, working with tens to hundreds of millions of budget per year), the gym and stuff like that end up going out the window, and I'm worried that will be the case with PT, walking, and more. My surgeon is seemingly the kind of guy who approaches things with a bunch of optimism like it's what people want to hear, with no time for listening to how mentally prepared someone is to do this. My dad is a very positive, go-get-em, on your feet kind of guy.
Without properly preparing my parents for how long my recovery really could last, I'm worried that especially my dad will see something like a 2-week post-op approval to get off of a walker as a sign I can start applying for jobs en masse that day. I don't want to start a job at like 50%, even WFH, knowing that I'm going to be plunging back into the world of 10+ hour days with constant emails and lack of sleep.
I know everyone heals at a different rate, but anything you can share, even if it's personal stories, would help. There's a lot of great stuff I've read here in the forum, but I know my parents aren't going to bother to read someone's 11 page recovery thread.
Thanks all! Still in the process of getting extra MRIs and scans to make sure I can do this surgery and get relief, and something isn't holding that back.
I'm wondering if anyone has some resources that are maybe a little bit more conservative with how quickly people were able to get back to work. My parents are unlikely to take personal stories from this forum or anywhere else on message boards with any kind of seriousness.
Because my work leaves me so emotionally and mentally drained (I work in advertising - media planning/digital media, most recently as a Director, working with tens to hundreds of millions of budget per year), the gym and stuff like that end up going out the window, and I'm worried that will be the case with PT, walking, and more. My surgeon is seemingly the kind of guy who approaches things with a bunch of optimism like it's what people want to hear, with no time for listening to how mentally prepared someone is to do this. My dad is a very positive, go-get-em, on your feet kind of guy.
Without properly preparing my parents for how long my recovery really could last, I'm worried that especially my dad will see something like a 2-week post-op approval to get off of a walker as a sign I can start applying for jobs en masse that day. I don't want to start a job at like 50%, even WFH, knowing that I'm going to be plunging back into the world of 10+ hour days with constant emails and lack of sleep.
I know everyone heals at a different rate, but anything you can share, even if it's personal stories, would help. There's a lot of great stuff I've read here in the forum, but I know my parents aren't going to bother to read someone's 11 page recovery thread.
Thanks all! Still in the process of getting extra MRIs and scans to make sure I can do this surgery and get relief, and something isn't holding that back.