Just was dropping by to wish you good luck in your month and saw all the posts. I am so sorry you are going through this. I can tell you as a nurse myself, the more at peace and confident YOU feel going for a surgery the better your outcome. You obviously are not at ease with the situation so going with your gut on this is the only way. My experience with my ortho and all his Staff is the opposite of what you describe and my expectations are realistic given my profession and experience. God bless you as you search for your answers and may you be somehow spared worsening pain as you straighten everything out!