Hey Doc, it's been a while, but I'm back to see how you are doing and maybe offer some encouragement. I'm finishing up month 9 and I am finally walking with minimal limp and completely tolerable pain. I still can't walk fast without pain, but at a sufficient pace to get where I need to go. Mind you there are still plenty of "zingers" that come my way and they are NOT FUN, but with the help of my PT, I'm able to keep track of the teeny tiny milestones I keep achieving. My most recent one this weekend is that I was able to come down the stairs foot over foot with something in both hands (lightweight - just towels) without holding the handrail. Slowly, carefully and a bit jerky, but it was a first! I don't think I was descending stairs foot over foot at all at your stage, and until recently was still "cheating" sometimes and coming down backwards when I didn't want to deal with the pain.
So I'm here to encourage you to look really closely at where you were 2 months ago, and compare it to now. Or better yet, think back 3 or 4 months and see if it wasn't quite a bit worse. Because if you are getting better, however slowly, you probably shouldn't be thinking about revision or even a 2nd opinion. Although you might want to consider finding a really good PT. At 5 months I still couldn't pedal the exercise bike around, I was stuck going back and forth. I remember being in tears b/c the lady next to me was only 3 months in and whirling around like a whiz. And now I am doing 2 miles in 10 minutes and can even get my heart rate up to an "exercise" level!
For what it's worth, here's what I've learned works for me in PT (still 2x/week) and what I also am following in rehabbing my skiing. Pain (for me 6+) should be avoided because (at least in my case) it doesn't accomplish anything. For me, progress is made when I "push" to about a 3 - 4 of discomfort. In the beginning (and darn near up to about where you are now, 5-6 months) it was impossible to follow this approach, because there was so little I could do below a 5 or 6 pain level. Often even just sitting or lying down the ache/throb was a solid 6 (just at the point where you can still concentrate enough to hold a conversation.) But about month 7.5 I started to turn the corner, and I was able to actually do some exercises in the 3 - 4 pain range. So by then the kinds of things I could do had increased significantly and the level at which I could do them (with "light" pain) was also increased. This was just about the time I started skiing again so there may have been some rehab synergies going on.
Despite my cheery advice about the slow and long-term nature of recovery (based on my own personal experience as a "bad outcome"), I can totally relate to your anger and resentment when it come to skiing. While I've made the same "baby steps" progress since starting, the level I've achieved is totally unacceptable - and UNEXPECTED! I know a bunch of people my age (61) and older skiing on replacements and they did so like it was nothing. But they were the "good outcome" people and all I can do is be jealous of them, and keep working patiently to rehab and recondition myself on the slopes. My best day so far has been 5 top-to-bottom runs on perfectly groomed snow, followed by one 1/2 run after 6 inches fell the night before. Depressed doesn't begin to describe how I felt that second day, and I still can't ski with anyone else yet. But looking at it objectively (and comparing to my first day out which was 1/2 run on groomer) I have to acknowledge the improvement. WAY TOO SLOW, but still up.
What I'm hoping for you is to see that while it may be unacceptably slow, your progress is still trending up.
Unfortunately I still have considerable pain, and I (now) expect to for many months to come. But I have much, much less of it than before, and I'm still seeing improvement, even if I'm not where I want (and fully expected) to be. At 6 weeks I could barely get to 95 degrees, and that was at 7 - 8 pain. I got to about 120 at the same pain level around 6 months, and now I can do 120 with only discomfort (2 -3). For me the biggest issue is flex under load (think squats, and also descending stairs), although another issue is that while 120 doesn't hurt much at all, 124 hurts a lot. Very few degrees spell the difference, and just moving my foot a bit on the bike pedal has a huge impact on my pain.
So I continue to walk on eggshells, while continuing regular (2x/week) gentle PT and trying to resign myself to my situation. We'll see how I feel after attending a yoga retreat next month, also intended to promote rehab. It's completely disheartening when you can't do the things that are supposed to help... it just feels like total failure. I know, I've been there, but I'm hoping you keep getting to a slightly better place, however slowly.
Sybilla