Hi Julie! We're so glad you found us and now you have this great big caring family to come to anytime you need to talk. We'll be here for you!!!
A couple of points from your posts....if you are still experiencing pain, why are you trying to cut back on your pain meds??? Pain (especially the achy low-grade type) can make you more emotional and generally not feel well. It is important to stay as pain free as possible during your recovery. You should ONLY listen to your own body and not worry about how long someone else was on pain meds. We are all different, hon....and these wonderful meds help you heal more easily.
It is typical for families not to "get it" with joint replacement surgery. You look normal and they begin to think you are just fine. Heck it's been a couple of weeks "vacation," hasn't it? You should be fine by now - you've been lying around all this time. Well, it just doesn't work that way. Your part of this equation is to firmly remind them that recovery takes months, not weeks....here is what you can do and can't do and ask for help from them on specific things that you cannot do yet. Some folks even resort to staying in their jammies just to provide a visual reminder that they are still healing and not ready to assume a full activity level yet.
The third thing is to really USE the forum. When you are feeling down or need support, it is easier for those of us who have been where you are to understand what you're feeling. 24/7...there will be someone here who can be there for you to rant, wail, moan, cry, whine....or celebrate the victories and milestones that make us all feel SO wonderful in the recovery process. There will be good days and bad days during this recovery journey.
So stay close....we love you and care about you!