My story - not sure where I stand these days

DanW

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I'm a long time "lurker" here and am very impressed by the supportive community you've built. It is informative to see other peoples' challenges and stories and what medicine is able to do to help them these days. I figured it was time to introduce myself and share my own story.

At age 7, I began walking with a limp. While it took awhile to determine the cause, I was eventually diagnosed with Legg-Calve-Perthes disease in my left hip. I had that limp for years and was made to sit out from PE and other activities (which mostly suited me as I was never an avid athlete). Eventually I did heal somewhat and got on with things, but the doctors at the time told me I would likely need a hip replacement earlier than is common. Almost every doctor I talked to also was surprised that I had good range of motion and functionality, so I thought I had recovered fairly well, but I was told I should never run or do any kind of high impact activity.

I went onto high school marching band and played the tuba which ended up being good exercise, but I often found myself in pain, no doubt from carrying a 40 pound instrument while marching along at various speeds. Over the subsequent years I've had difficulty with exercise and my weight has fluctuated. While I've always had some degree of hip pain, it has at times been barely noticeable and other times almost debilitating, but I have always been able to walk at least enough to get around to where I need to go. Some days I can do a several mile hike and other days I don't want to get out of bed (not that I can't, but that the pain makes it difficult).

I actually spoke with a surgeon in April of 2021 who would do the surgery (I was 35 at the time), but he didn't seem especially keen to, and neither was I. I wasn't actually in much pain at the time and it seemed like drastic and irreversible step and that I was too young to take it on. Ultimately I did not go through with a replacement. I had a nearly pain free 2 years after that, but I also wasn't terribly active, so overall I felt like I was right to at least delay.

I've also dealt with lifelong anxiety and depression, no doubt exacerbated by the pain and disability. In a recent attempt at getting those under control, I've found myself back at the gym and trying to find ways I can exercise without bringing on the pain. It's been a mixed success; I've lost a good amount of weight and improved my mood, but I am dealing with more pain than I have in the previous year or two. Overall, I'm in about as good a shape as I've ever been in my life.

And so I don't really know where I stand these days. I still can have good days where I'm nearly pain free, and I still have days where the pain is distracting me. I can go to the gym and use the stair climber machine and go for 100 flights of stairs (a feat even some with 2 good hips would have trouble with), but I'll likely pay for it for 2-3 days after.

What do I worry about? Lots of things lol. Getting anxious during recovery with no way to get outside and walk which is one of the best ways I find to help calm down. In some sense I'm on my own, but my parents are available and very willing to help me through a recovery process. I also had a friend volunteer to let me stay with him and his wife if needed which after some thought is an amazing offer. I believe I also have other friends and relatives who would be willing to help me, so in that sense I actually realized how blessed I am.

Complications are a worry obviously, though I tell myself that I'm relatively young and in good shape so I'd think I'm less likely to encounter them. From what I can tell, I've also got a very experienced surgeon which is very important.

But the main worry is revision. I'm currently 37 and so I wonder how long I would get on a replacement. I've spent years reading here and in medical journals that I find about them. I know that while hip replacement in those under 60 used to be relatively unheard of, it has become more common in recent years and there are people on this forum around my age and younger who have gone onto some impressive recoveries. I've also followed hiprunner.com for a long time now because I imagine that those people are testing the limits of modern joint replacement. And while I have no desire to ever run a marathon, I'm truly impressed by them and the people here who have gone on to do that after hip replacements.

Still, I can't help but worry about the future. I actually had a coworker who had one of those vanishingly rare young hip replacements back in the 90's when I believe he would have been in his early 40's. He managed to get about 22 years on it, but it did wear out eventually and had to be revised. I'm pretty afraid of one major surgery (and especially the recovery), and that there might be more down the line is harder to accept. I know that the materials these days are far better than they were back then, but I wonder how long one can realistically expect to get out of one.

On the other hand, what would a success look like for me? I don't know how much one could hope for, though as I said I have seen some impressive results here as well.

Obviously, being pain-free would be the overall goal. I know that nothing in medicine is guaranteed, but hearing people say that they forget about their hip is something I dream about; even on my good days, it's always been in the back of my mind.

So pain-free is goal one, but I wonder what is possible? I'd love to be able to lift weights that involve my lower body; I mostly skip those now, but I'd think it could be done after a good recovery since it would still be low impact. As I said, I've never been able to run and I don't have any desire to start, but being able to ride a bike for more than a few miles would also be great. My family has talked about group bike rides and at the moment, I'm a little reluctant about it only because of the pain; otherwise I'd love to join them.

As I said, I don't really know where I stand these days. Right now I'm mostly trying to keep my weight under control (something I've had a lifelong issue with) and focus on finding upper body workouts along with the gentlest possible leg workouts, but the issue remains.
 
DanW great that you've spoken here..I had a total left hip replacement in 2006 and like you had Perthes disease as a kid (and born with bilateral hip displasia). I was 44 and worked full time as a horse trainer however was in agony with pain. I was fit and healthy at the time of the op and recovered well. 3 months later was riding again, a year later was jogging, playing sport etc. Best decision I made was to get the surgery. now 17 years on, it's fantastic still. I'm getting my left knee replaced in 13 days. I was told at the time of the hip surgery my knee was a 'bit dodgy'. Well it's pulled me up now and my function had decreased. Again though I'm looking forward and focusing on all that I will do again actively without pain eventually. I'm already mentally rehearsing how it will feel to ride again (both horses and motorbikes). Hike, trek etc. Modern medical tech is incredible....I'm taking full advantage and want to have an active time ahead now I'm just in my 60's! Good luck. Mental preparation is critical. do what ever it takes to minimise your worries. You wont regret it. When I had my hip done I gained 3/4 and inch of leg length, which was amazing, I went from being noticeably lopsided to only slightly lopsided :) a lot limpy to a little limpy. My knee is in a pickle now though and I'm fully limping. Bring on the surgery!! I'm ready.
 
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Welcome @DanW, and thanks for sharing your story in so much detail.

Each of us must make our own decision about undergoing surgery. I had a very successful outcome but, I do understand your ambivalence because I'm someone who put my hip replacement off for a long time.

Here are a few thoughts:
I still can have good days where I'm nearly pain free, and I still have days where the pain is distracting me.
About a year before my THR, my surgeon said to me: "you will have good days and you will have bad days. When the bad days start to outnumber the good, it's time to schedule your surgery because it won't get any better -- and it could get worse very fast."

the main worry is revision. I'm currently 37 and so I wonder how long I would get on a replacement.
I actually had a coworker who had ... hip replacements back in the 90's... He managed to get about 22 years on it, but it did wear out eventually and had to be revised.
Yes, implant do eventually wear out. But there are people whose hip replacements have lasted 20 or more years -- and today's implants are much better than the ones that were used in the 90s Take a look at this article: Longevity of implants and revisions: How long will my new joint last?

what would a success look like for me? I don't know how much one could hope for, though as I said I have seen some impressive results here as well.
I'm one of those folks who actually "forgets" I have an implant! While I"m not a athlete, I do love to hike and bicycle and my hip no longer interferes with those activities. You might also want to take a look at these Stories of amazing hip recoveries. from other BoneSmarties.
 
@DanW Welcome to BoneSmart! Just about everyone facing major surgery has worries and concerns! Here at BoneSmart we are seeing more and more folks in your age range getting hip replacements and returning to active jobs and activities. We have even seen quite a number of teenagers getting hip replacements. Since you expressed an interest in bike riding go over to the Social Room here (under the Community tab above) and check out the very lengthy thread devoted to our bike riders who have gotten hip and/or knee replacements. Life with pain free hips is wonderful and well worth enjoying even if you might need a revision 30-40 years in the future.

Though I was considerably older than you when I had both hips replaced in one surgery (64yo), when my surgeon discharged me he said the only permanent restriction I had on activities was "NO bungy cord jumping!" ... totally OK with me as that had never been on my bucket list! Now, 12 years later, like benne68 said I rarely think of having artificial hips .... until I log in here.

It sounds like you have a good support system available to you to help out after the surgery ... and you will not be restricted to your home for very long - walking is the best exercise for new hips! So, weather permitting, taking walks around your area, short ones at first and gradually lengthening them, will be a very good idea! Before you even leave the hospital (and these days most folks do not even stay over night) you will be on your feet and the wonderful staff will make sure you can ambulate on your own, climb some steps, and are able to do most of what you need to do to take care of your self.

If the surgeon you have already seen is "old school" and reluctant to replace your hip because of your age .... find a different surgeon!

Here's our list of pre op articles and suggestions. Do look particularly at the one about "how bad is my hip". That includes questionaires to fill out - be honest! - and print and take with you to appointment(s) with surgeon.

Hip: pre-surgery considerations

If you are at the stage where you have joint pain but don't know for sure if you are ready to have surgery, these links may help:


Score Chart: How bad is my arthritic hip?
Choosing a surgeon and a prosthesis
BMI Calculator - What to do if your surgeon says you're too heavy for joint replacement surgery
Longevity of implants and revisions: How long will my new joint last?

If you are at the stage where you are planning to have surgery but are looking for information so you can be better prepared for what is to come, take a look at these links:


Recovery Aids: A comprehensive list for hospital and home
Recliner Chairs: Things you need to know if buying one for your recovery
Pre-Op Interviews: What's involved?

And if you want to picture what your life might be like with a replaced hip, take a look at the posts and threads in stories of amazing hip recoveries
 
Thank you for the replies!

@Tiger2440 That's really encouraging to hear that you've got such a good result after a life with Perthes and Dysplasia; it's another slight worry of mine that they may make the surgery more difficult or recovery less complete. I hope your knee replacement goes well too!

@benne68 I think the good day/bad day balance is a good metric, and what is currently giving me a bit of trouble. If I just want to sit around, then I can have mostly good days, but if I want to be more active, I have to be really careful about things. In my younger days I was pretty happy to be sedentary and play video games and things like that (I wasn't a complete couch potato, but I was pretty nerdy), but as I've gotten a bit older I appreciate exercise and the outdoors a lot more, so I would like to be more active. It's something to really consider. Luckily given my condition, my job is in front of a computer with a sit/stand desk so I can still work pretty comfortably as is.

If the surgeon you have already seen is "old school" and reluctant to replace your hip because of your age .... find a different surgeon!

@djklaugh What's funny about that is I actually found a video online of the surgeon who had done a hip replacement in a 30-year-old gym trainer. I can't link to the video it seems because of the forum rules, but I can find a way to share if anyone is curious. The surgeon is Dr Matthew Morrey. I did not choose him based on this video either; I know of him because he actually performed a bilateral hip replacement on my grandmother! I found the video completely by coincidence while looking for other young people who had had hip replacements.

So I was a bit surprised when he didn't really push the surgery (I also sort of expect a surgeon to always push for a surgery). It made me wonder if I really had that much of a problem. But really it's probably just his style, and in reality I actually appreciate that he didn't try to give me a hard sell on the replacement; I'm not too inclined to trust pushy salesmen either.

Thanks again for the replies, I'll continue to think about what you've said.
 
I had problems with my hips when I was young also. At 30 I was at a surgeon's office holding a replacement in my hand. He gave me the good day bad day talk and how THR isn't a slam dunk and also that they wear out and that tomorrow they'd have better parts and procedures. That was in the 80's and he was right about the progress that has been made. I waited and it was all my decision since I was the one that would have to go through it. I have no regrets about waiting and no regrets about having both replaced.
 
So I was a bit surprised when he didn't really push the surgery (I also sort of expect a surgeon to always push for a surgery).
Surgeons won't push the surgery. In the end it must be the patient's decision. But there is a trend toward shared decision making - probably what you were expecting.
 
So I was a bit surprised when he didn't really push the surgery (I also sort of expect a surgeon to always push for a surgery). It made me wonder if I really had that much of a problem. But really it's probably just his style, and in reality I actually appreciate that he didn't try to give me a hard sell on the replacement; I'm not too inclined to trust pushy salesmen either.
That to me would be the sign of a good surgeon. I had knee problems many years ago and the surgeon wasn't pushing the surgery, I asked him why. He said he didn't need the money, he'd paid cash for his wife's car. We had been kidding around beforehand and he knew I was in the car business. He was a very good surgeon and did a great job on my knee when I decided to have the surgery.
 
If I just want to sit around, then I can have mostly good days, but if I want to be more active, I have to be really careful about things
I think that's your answer: you want to be out and active.. When you reach the point where you choose not to do something you love because you are worried about the pain, it's time.
 
Thank you all for the input. I guess I'm slowly realizing that this something I should do relatively soon. It's just the thought of being stuck recovering and in pain, unable to do the simple things that help relieve the anxiety like take a shower or get up and exercise is daunting. I know that it's only a few weeks out of my life but now thinking about it gives me grief; I can get stuck worrying in the moment about the pain and possible complications. I think the best way to deal with that is to imagine life on the other side; doing things I want to pain free, but that is often easier said than done for me. I actually just had a friend ask if I'd like to go out swing dancing with his friends and I had to tell him that I could try, but it would be difficult with my hip. So I suppose that's the sort of thing I should think of as a goal.

It's actually a bit funny because as I said, in my younger days, I would have relished the excuse to just sit around and play video games. I did actually just buy a new portable game system and one pro of that in my mind was that it might be a nice way to pass time while recovering. My local library also lends tons of ebooks and audiobooks which will be helpful.

I do have some appointments coming up with a therapist and psychiatrist so this will be something to talk about more. It also occurs to me that an acute recovery time might be a good reason to take a benzodiazepine. I tend to avoid that (I don't currently take any medications actually) and doctors aren't thrilled about them because of possible dependence, but I suppose it's something to talk about.
 
@DanW Anxiety can be so limiting. My eldest and youngest sons experience this. They are both gamers and it has really helped them in taking their minds off their issues. They are able to play on line with each other and other gamers which does give them some social interaction when in person events are a hard pass most days. They're not antisocial but the gaming helps them deal with the day to day interactions they do have to face. My eldest gets by without medication while my youngest is working on finding the right medication with the help of a therapist. So finding what works for you is the key. A healthy support system will always give you a safety net, as well. Both of those things should get you through a surgery.

My world getting smaller and smaller not to mention more frustrating and depressing because of the almost constant pain, was what spurred me on to get the surgery done. It is a very good indicator since this does not ever get better without intervention. It was the best thing I could have done. My recovery wasn't a cake walk but it was manageable and so much better than pre-surgery. I'm back to living an active life. I'm also one that forgets about my hip. I think that is completely possible for you, too. The catch: you have to have the surgery to get to the healing, life affirming side. You know there will be pain but it is short-lived and manageable. It is not the same pain you have now. You know you'll be slowed down for a bit. I felt all of it was a small price to pay for what I have now. So, as they say, the ball is in your court. Where do you want to be in the next few months, a year? Keep us posted as to your progress in your decision making process.
 
I think the best way to deal with that is to imagine life on the other side; doing things I want to pain free, but that is often easier said than done for me.
I think this is true for many of us. I helped myself visualize that "other" side by making a list of the things I wanted to do that I couldn't do at the time. (It was quite a long list since I was walking with a cane at that point!)

By the way, I carried this list with me into recovery and as I was able to add achievements (even little ones!), I moved items from the "want to do" list to the "can do" list, which helped me see progress.

Wishing you brighter days ahead!
 
DanW,
As has been said - everyone's recovery is a bit different. I read the stories here of challenging recoveries and my anxiety level for my first THR started rising quite a bit. Fortunately my recovery ended up being very quick and without challenges. I think the majority are, but I have no hard data.

Showering for the first time after surgery can be a challenge - I cut the bottom out of a white trash back and slipped it over my head - then used a bungie cord to secure it and keep water from flowing over the wound. I also converted the shower head to a removable one so I could better direct the water.

I'm not a big athlete, but I do like to do cardio and strength training. I am amazed at how much better I feel and look forward to exercising just after the first THR (I still have #2 to get replaced on Dec 5th.) Before I basically decided "eff it, i'm getting these done", I was extrapolating out what life would be like if I continued on without the replacement surgery - it was pretty depressing. I had pain in my knees, hips and lower back that made me walk like a penguin. It sounds like you are getting close to that tipping point as well.

This is a great place for support and information - please keep us informed as to what you decide.
 
@GrumpyMCO I really appreciate you weighing in on your recovery. I suspect that you are right that the majority of recoveries are "textbook" so to speak and we hear a lot more about the horror stories which is unfortunate, but probably just the way we (especially those of us on the more anxious end) are. I try and remember what I'm thankful for throughout the year, but obviously this week of Thanksgiving especially to try and counter-act that.

In spite of my fears, it's truly amazing that this surgery is possible and that there are surgeons with the skill to do it in such a routine way. It is a comfort to know that if the pain gets too bad that I have a surgeon and the funding lined up to go through with it, and that would not have been possible even perhaps 40-50 years ago. Certainly if I had lived even 100 years ago, I would have to resign myself to a lifetime of pain, but now there is a very good option for me when I need it.

Having friends and family who volunteered to help me has also made me realize how blessed I am. I'm now thinking I should probably take the opportunity of this holiday to tell them that.
 
Hi all,

I have not had a hip replacement yet, but am seriously considering it. I have a surgeon or two in mind but I was wondering if there are any recommendations for San Antonio, TX or if there's someone just in Texas generally who's "the guy".

I also sort of debate looking for someone to do a hip resurfacing, but that seems to be a trickier proposition, especially since it would mean travel.

Any info is appreciated.
 
I was wondering if there are any recommendations for San Antonio, TX or if there's someone just in Texas generally who's "the guy".
I will tag @Jamie for Admin to check her resources and get back to you, Dan.
Best wishes in your search!
 
I met with a surgeon yesterday. His PA came in and looked at my x-ray and said, "I bet you've been in pain for a long time." Which I really appreciated. I don't show any outward signs of having a problem; I don't walk with a limp or anything like that (I actually taught myself not to as a child after so many people commented on it). I'm actually in rather good shape these days too due to a very careful workout routine, and so people are surprised when I tell them that I have a bad hip, and they certainly don't understand the experience of chronic pain.

Essentially they said it was an open and shut case - replacement is the only real fix for me. They didn't even really even say anything about my age; I had to bring it up. The surgeon said he realistically expects modern implants to last around 30 years.

Rationally, I'm pretty convinced that this is something I need to do, but getting myself to go through with it is still hard. There are just so many little details to worry about, particularly taking a lot of time off work (it's a small place and I don't want to leave them hanging for long), but my biggest apprehension is finding the right surgeon as everything I've read says that's the most important. I had no problem with the one I met with, and the surgical center was nice as well and only a short drive. Ultimately, I'm not really capable of evaluating a surgeon, and so it is hard to know who to go with.
 
Dan,
I am sorry to read that you're in need of a joint replacement, but enduring pain is no way to live.
It is understandable you have many questions and concerns, but it will all work itself out.
I will tag @Jamie from Admin again. She must have accidentally missed the last tag, so sorry!
Please know that we're here to advise when we're able and to offer support as you make decisions and move forward. I hope you have a pleasant weekend, Dan! :)
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Thank you Layla, you are right that the pain is really problematic; it's been lifelong and very slowly advancing, so it can be hard to tell what it has cost me. Too much I'm sure. Anyway, I appreciate any info.
 
I did miss the first tag….so sorry. Sometimes our system hiccups like that. I do have some names for you, but I’m checking on one more that actually is in your area. Can you tell me what surgeon you just saw and I’ll take a look at him.
 

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