just after some advice please

[wayne winder]

hi all

as i only had my right hip replaced last week i'am new to all this so just looking for some help and information.
i am 27 years old and i have had RA since i was 13 i have been on many of treatments but none have seemed to have helped
in feb i informed my doctor of pain in my right hip and upon x-ray he found there was very bad damage to the joint and proposed i have a thr.
as a young man i was very worred as you only think this happens to your gran! i feel all this has gone to fast and i dont feel like i understood all the isssues that come with having a thr but i have had it done anyway. now i have come back home and are having to use a raised tolet seat, not bend over 90o, and to watch every thing i do it all seems to have hit me at once and it is starting to get me down. i feel that this is it for the rest of my life and that i will now not be able to run around with my little lad i also feel that it may effect my love life also and that i wont be very flexible under the sheets. i know its not what life is all about but like i say as a young man you do worry about things like that. so if any one has any advice or information on how long it will take me to get back to normal or if i even will. it will help me so much
thank you W w

 

[Josephine]

Hello Wayne, and welcome to BoneSmart! I moved your post into a thread of it's own so you get more exposure and replies of your own.

Well, you must be one of the youngest hippies we've ever had so a double welcome! I know I have nurse several 19/20 year olds for hip replacements because of poorly treated hip problems from infancy so you're by no means unusual.

First thing to remember and get firmly locked into your mind is that the objective of having a hip replacement is to be able to continue a totally normal life once you've recovered. This will mean sports, playing with your son (how old is he, btw?), and yes - even sex! There are some threads in here about that, we talk about everything on this forum!

It feels dreadful the first few weeks as people will tell you, but once your wound has stopped being sore and painful and the surgeon has lifted your 90 degree restrictions, you'll then be able to build up your stamina again and suddenly find you got your life back!

How good is that? Within a few months, 8 at the most you'll wake up one morning and later it will suddenly hit you - the first thing you thought about when you woke was not your hip! From there on in it will be great and all this will be just a faint memory.

So be patient. It will improve but it will take its time. Post here lots and join in the threads. You'll get heaps of encouragement and support from the others. If you have any questions, if the others can't answer them, I will. Not a lot defeats me!

God bless ....

 

[mdakota]

hey wayne,
well what jo said and your right in the worst part. this forum is great because there are so many young people. i'm 36 and had my right done 7 weeks ago and my left done comming up monday. 22 previous hip surgeries before the age of 12. Ra is degenerative as i'm sure you know. since you got rid of the bad joint though you get to start out fresh with something new and good. when i was in the drs office right before the first one a man said he had ra and had already had both knees and one hip done. he said as you will see on here alot its the best thing he's ever done.
i'm sure since you feel very alone right now its hard to see past the surgical pain. infact if you dont have anyone that has had this and gotten on with their lives its hard to believe it is so possible but it is. there is no way i would do this if it werent real especially not two times so close together. check out my blog and good luck
monique

 

[Jamie]

Welcome to BoneSmart, Wayne. Jo is so right. It will get better.

Sometimes the pain meds you are on result in bouts of depression. So that will disappear too as you begin to heal and have less pain.

You are about to begin a wonderful journey to a fabulous life with your family. You'll be able to do the things you want in life. Sure the recovery is a real pain (literally), but try to look beyond it to your ultimate goal. That's the REAL prize!

In the meantime, go through the forum and read of other's success. It will let you know what is awaiting you a few months down the road. And use the forum for support. That's what we're here for. Ask questions. Voice concerns. Make friends. Heck, just tell us what you had for lunch!!! We LOVE to hear from our members.

 

[loghaula]

Hey WW,
Hang in there kiddo, there is nothing we can't help you with in this forum.
I am now 61 and had both hips replaced, one in May, one in July, 3 weeks ago. At my last post op, I asked the doc about the sex thing. "No problems" he told me and sent me home with a pamphlet that shows various positions (with pics lol) so no worries there.
I went through the depression thing as I had been suffering for so long and just wanted to be up and going. No way, as the hip lets you know in no uncertain manner when you overstep, as you have no doubt already found out. But that is one of the good things about this site - vent, vent, vent
Do keep up with your exercises as they really do help in your recupe as they help get the muscles' strength back and really helps with the mind thing also.
Keep in your mind that without this hip replacement, you would not be able to have quality time playing with your youngster or your wife:whis:
We all recupe at different speeds; I was up and rolling within a week after my first surgery, but took a little longer with the second, but am now able to walk without a cane most of the time, although with a limp and do get a quick reminder if I overdo things. I am now back to driving which was a super deal and last night was the first time I had been able to shave my legs since May You will find each day is better than the last, just don't overdo and enjoy:p
Believe me, it is all worth every bit, and as Jo mentioned, one day you will get up and not even be thinking about your hip. Good luck and get on here any time you feel like it; we really are a good bunch and we have all been there.
Glenys
LHR 5/28/09
RHR 5/23/09

 

[ronhall51]

hi all

as i only had my right hip replaced last week i'am new to all this so just looking for some help and information.
i am 27 years old and i have had RA since i was 13 i have been on many of treatments but none have seemed to have helped
in feb i informed my doctor of pain in my right hip and upon x-ray he found there was very bad damage to the joint and proposed i have a thr.
as a young man i was very worred as you only think this happens to your gran! i feel all this has gone to fast and i dont feel like i understood all the isssues that come with having a thr but i have had it done anyway. now i have come back home and are having to use a raised tolet seat, not bend over 90o, and to watch every thing i do it all seems to have hit me at once and it is starting to get me down. i feel that this is it for the rest of my life and that i will now not be able to run around with my little lad i also feel that it may effect my love life also and that i wont be very flexible under the sheets. i know its not what life is all about but like i say as a young man you do worry about things like that. so if any one has any advice or information on how long it will take me to get back to normal or if i even will. it will help me so much
thank you W w

hi wayne im 54 just had my hip replaced and have the same exact feelings you do at 27 its not an age thing its a thr thing.You being on the other side have to keep a good perspective your future is SO much brighter now then what you faced previous to the thr.You definately made the right decision for the forseeable future.The restrictions you mentioned are annoying but temporary and frankly at 27 Very Temporary.Im 3 weeks past the thr and without a cane and fairly mobile.Im still on restrictions including raised toilet seat!!(that fits no one!!!) it being recent to me i know the depression you are feeling looking at the next 3 or 4 months unfortunately no way to rush them you have to live them day by day.Use the time wisely follow the plan make goals for yourself to distract you (in my case i decided to lose 15 pounds) believe me this will help you get past this useless feeling !!

 

[Texas]

Hey Wane Welcome im a knee but i hope you feel better soon. You are young so look at it like now you will have your whole life to live and with out all that pain. You will get better...Geez look at some of the hips on here....Riding motorcycles, horse back riding etc...You will get there may not look like it now but you will........Good for you for taking care of it now.....It does get depressing alot at one time...Make a list sounds crazy I know but make goals for yourself....what are you going to do when you are all better and you will be .....good luck to you....Join in talk to people you will feel better. We have all been thru it one way or the other.....keep your chin up.............

 

[Judles]

Welcome, Wayne! Look at it this way.......at least there is this wonderful technology to help you feel better! You now have a future that will be pain free!! You are truly blessed! Keep us posted! (0)

 

[JudyS]

Wayne if you like being active at 3 weeks I was swimming away with my new hip. Ask your doc first of course. By 3 months restrictions were lifted and I was on my old hiking trails and doing anything else I wanted to (except running)
WElcome to the bonesmartie family
judy

 

[tahoe1009]

Welcome Wayne! I am 32 and three and a half months out. I'm still struggling, but I have hope! I read wonderfull reports on here and it really keeps me going. I wouldn't suggest you ask my wife's opinion of the whole THR procedure!! She has had to see me hurt way too bad for way too long (in her opinion). This is a great place with great people. Keep your chin up and let us know how you are progressing. We really are in your corner and care because we have been there or are there right now!!

 

[kangaroo]

Hey Tahoe,
Nice to hear you say "my wife"....it has a lovely sound....
Rachel

 

[kangaroo]

Sex with pain is a drag....just wait until you are pain free!

 

[wayne winder]

thanks guys i now feel that iam not on my own and that i have made many of new friends and if i ever need any more information i can always come and find what i need here. I also feel i can help more people as iam still in the first stage of my recovery and all is still fresh in my mind. I am looking forward to helping people just like you guys have helped me i feel like a big worry has been lifted off me and that i have a place to come and talk to people who are i the same boat as me you dont know how much it means to me a huge THANK YOU to you all
W w

 

[Jamie]

That's what the forum is all about, Wayne....all of us helping each other. I'm happy you feel good about being part of our BoneSmart family and that you want to help others through your participation in our discussions. Thanks so much for taking time to do that!!! It DOES make a difference!

 

[Josephine]

 

[Clunker]

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First thing to remember and get firmly locked into your mind is that the objective of having a hip replacement is to be able to continue a totally normal life once you've recovered. This will mean sports, playing with your son (how old is he, btw?), and yes - even SEX!

Momma hen,that might have been the nicest thing you have ever told anyone. I was paying real close attention once.lol.

Hey Wayne,
Welcome to bonesmarts, I wish you the very best!

 

[Texas]

Awww thats so great Wayne im with Jo group hug !!!!!!!!!!.lol Talk to any of us anytime ....Thats why Im staying on, I have learned so much and been thru alot and love all my friends and hope something I can say might just help someone who's going thru this surgery..And Im still going thru things so I need the hope once in awhile as well......Hang in there...) It will be ok.....

 

[wayne winder]

thanks clunker my lad is 2year old now hes a proper little monster lol

 

[kangaroo]

I've got a 2 year old boy too....a bit of a challenge with a thr in the early days....but it WILL improve.....I promise. I'm actually having a lot of fun with Nick now, simply because i can move and do stuff far easier....in and out of the car is easier.....walking, getting in and out of the pool, going to the library, going to play groups, ....all that stuff that mum's do....you are probably hanging out to play "rough and tumble" with him again, and this too will happen.....
Rachel

 

[Nan]

I am 3 months out on trhr done may11 09
Iam still on a cane still cannot do alot but better then before
hope the best for you Wayne

Nan:rant: