Of course--and they are a good reason to fight too. I think that I have learned compassion for others through my life with Bob---I am the first person to open a door or to pick up something for another person. I know that Bob does his best---and really that is all that I can ask of him. We married for better or worse in sickness and health. I am here and am going to stay here. sometimes I wish I could do something to help Bob.
I bet your children are awesome---they are probably a little disappointed that their mum is not there---but, they know why and I am sure they understand a person who is not able to do things. They have learned compassion at a much younger age than I and will be better people because of it.
Really Nat---I think love is everything. It sounds trite, but if you love your children and they know it--that is so much more important than going to a soccer game. A person who is loved faces life with confidence---someone is standing behind them ready to help. They find someone else who can share love with them.
I was abused by my mother---and grew up needing attention and praise which I rarely received. I was a shaky mom---my first impulse was to hit--but I did not want to hit my kids too---so, I would run up and down the stairs when I was angry until I could talk to them. When they saw me running the stairs, they would all scatter to their rooms!!! We have lots of family jokes about my stair running life!
But, it makes me tear up to see what great parents they are to their children. I feel so good because I broke the chain of abuse--I did not continue it. And, I have learned to love both my children and my husband. It is much nicer to face the world with a loving family behind you.
They seem to have some good luck with those spinal stimulators---I hope it works for you. Kelly